Should having friends be a "fundamental right"?

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There is no such thing as a 'fundamental right' to anything. Nature guarantees you nothing, not even your next breath, much less friendship. If you want anything in life, from food to shelter to sex, you must learn to acquire it on your own, or do without, no matter how difficult the process may be for you to learn. For humans, there is a long period during which much of this acquisition is done by parents and family, but ultimately you're on your own.

There is nothing that says you are to be prevented from having friends, but if you want those bonds and relationships, you have to forge them, they aren't handed to you. The more singular and unique your own personality, the longer it may take for you to find individuals with whom you have enough commonalities to bond and form a deep friendship. Even so, a friend or two doesn't change the fact that one has to deal with the rest of humanity on a daily basis, and if you have a marked social dysfunction, you're still going to deal with a lot of feelings of alienation and loneliness. A humble self-confidence and the ability to laugh at oneself helps on both counts.

The notion that 'The Ministry of Happy Mental Health' is going to send an agent to your door with a couple of smiling idiots and say "Here are your personal government-issued friends" so that you can automatically live happily ever after is just ridiculous. Human relationships don't work that way. People are drawn to each other by a mutual recognition of common interests, which tends to happen by accident and coincidence. I know sometimes it seems like one is alone forever, but as long as you don't stay holed up in your room hiding from the world all the time (some of the time that's necessary), you'll hit it off with someone eventually.

Not having friends should be a "fundamental right".

I remember my middle school days when, because I spend all my time in playground alone, I was harassed both by teachers and the other children (when I asked to the other children why they were always teasing and bullying me, their answer was "because you don't play with us"; but why they wanted to force me to play with them?).

I also remember my parents trying to force me to go out, make friends, join clubs, etc., when I only wanted to be in my room daydreaming or reading my books.

Then, I defend the fundamental right to "not having friends", is this is your option.

Is this thread a joke?

Ok, so if something is wrong with your body, a person has the right to go see a doctor (I guess this is only totally true for universal healthcare) and see whats wrong. If a person is depressed and they feel that talking to someone would make them feel better why don't they have the right to a set of "friends" to talk to?

So what are you going to do when people do not want to be your friend?

Nothing is a right in regards to friendship and dating when it involves a choice like this of someone else.

No-one should feel they have to be friends with someone
No-one should feel they have to date someone

You can't force people to be your friends of date you out of their own free will, you can't. What are they going to get out of a one sided friendship? Nothing, so they don't.

Just like you can't force someone to give you their icecream because you are upset that you don't have one. The most you will ever get are pity friends/partners/icecreams and thats not because they actually like you.