02 Nov 2010, 11:05 pm
As someone who presently cant afford/doesn't want kids.....I would never adopt if I went that route.
Our system is pretty screwed up, but believe it or not, it is improving. Slowly. Adoptive parents are being told more about their children, so they aren't being blind-sided as much as they used to be. Insurance companies are starting to be required to cover more mental health issues.
You're young yet - you could change your mind about kids!
Well, my first objective is to obtain a better job in the medical field........like respiratory therapist.........x-ray tech. We will see what happens from there. However, I have always wanted a professional job with responsibilities...and to be a really jacked guy...
I'm about halfway to becoming a really big dude....im in decent shape now.
To all the male aspies here: The better the job/more muscles you have....the better society treats you....or is at least forced to treat you.
I noticed that when I started at 130 pounds and went to 170...people treated me better. It's just how it is.
If you don't want to be bullied.....obtain what the bullies have to protect yourself. Bullies prey on the weak....not the strong
...I'm a woman, and I want exactly that.
A good job and an extra 20kg or so of muscle mass.
Why would a women want muscle mass? Would it be for sex appeal or to avoid being bullied by OTHER women? Do women even get physically bullied?
Why are men allowed to want muscle but not women?
And yeah. Women get physically bullied.
Since you asked: I like it for its own sake. I don't think a slim smooth body is that aesthetically pleasing.
Skinny body can be hot on a women.
03 Nov 2010, 9:02 am
03 Nov 2010, 10:12 am
We looked into adoption before trying to concieve and were open to an older child, or a child with challenges (down syndorm? -no problem! Aspie - even better! FASD? trained to work with them in the schools and love em') - no we weren't looking for a baby and race doesn't matter to us . . . but yeah in Canada it costs $10 000 to adopt 
Oh yeah, and race does matter to the agencies - they preffer to place children within their own culture so even if you would consider a child who doesn't look like you you may not get that option.
If anyone can put me in touch with an agency here that can do it for less I am interested! . . . but would they consider a stay at home aspie mom with a seizure disorder and hard working fiance who didn't finish high school? No we aren't perfect but we have roof over our heads, food on the table and alot of love to give. Good eneugh for most kids born into their natural families - but not good eneugh for the social workers.
Pregnancy is very difficult for me - I almost died over the weekend after doctors failed to recognise a life threatening complication in pregnancy if I could I would consider adoption a preffered avenue to parenting - it's not important that it be "mine" and franky I am just as intimidated about the challenges of raising a baby as any new mom to be, but we love eachother and would do anything to have a family (even if it almost killed me 
). Perhaps being willing to "do anything to be able to have a family" is exactly why we would be ideal adoptive parents - I'm sure those kids feel exactly the same way every day . . . too bad we aren't rich eneugh to adopt them and be that family they've been waiting for
04 Nov 2010, 11:43 am
As someone who presently cant afford/doesn't want kids.....I would never adopt if I went that route.
Our system is pretty screwed up, but believe it or not, it is improving. Slowly. Adoptive parents are being told more about their children, so they aren't being blind-sided as much as they used to be. Insurance companies are starting to be required to cover more mental health issues.
You're young yet - you could change your mind about kids!
Well, my first objective is to obtain a better job in the medical field........like respiratory therapist.........x-ray tech. We will see what happens from there. However, I have always wanted a professional job with responsibilities...and to be a really jacked guy...
I'm about halfway to becoming a really big dude....im in decent shape now.
To all the male aspies here: The better the job/more muscles you have....the better society treats you....or is at least forced to treat you.
I noticed that when I started at 130 pounds and went to 170...people treated me better. It's just how it is.
If you don't want to be bullied.....obtain what the bullies have to protect yourself. Bullies prey on the weak....not the strong
...I'm a woman, and I want exactly that.
A good job and an extra 20kg or so of muscle mass.
Why would a women want muscle mass? Would it be for sex appeal or to avoid being bullied by OTHER women? Do women even get physically bullied?
Why are men allowed to want muscle but not women?
And yeah. Women get physically bullied.
Since you asked: I like it for its own sake. I don't think a slim smooth body is that aesthetically pleasing.
Skinny body can be hot on a women.
I care more about MY ideals than I do about being hot for the guys.
My body is mine first, not theirs.
04 Nov 2010, 12:07 pm
04 Nov 2010, 2:15 pm
The people that are resonable who would make good parents seem to only make 1-2 children or are infertile.That's just because fertility goes down with age. In modern society, being prepared to raise a child well takes time. And the more time people spend doing that (maturing, getting established in their job), the less children they are able to have.
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04 Nov 2010, 5:25 pm
The people that are resonable who would make good parents seem to only make 1-2 children or are infertile.That's just because fertility goes down with age. In modern society, being prepared to raise a child well takes time. And the more time people spend doing that (maturing, getting established in their job), the less children they are able to have.
Is that why teens get pregnant so quick?
04 Nov 2010, 6:07 pm
The people that are resonable who would make good parents seem to only make 1-2 children or are infertile.That's just because fertility goes down with age. In modern society, being prepared to raise a child well takes time. And the more time people spend doing that (maturing, getting established in their job), the less children they are able to have.
Is that why teens get pregnant so quick?
I know you're winking but...yes it is why. It is a miracle of birth control that every act of teen sex doesn't lead to pregnancy, since biology has almost guarenteed that it will.
04 Nov 2010, 9:39 pm
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