Aspie females = Tomboys?

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i guess it's safe to say i go through phases. i'm a tomboy with girly tendencies. i love the color pink, i own maybe about 15 skirts, lots of heels, and i can't love without makeup. i also played with barbies all the time and every single phase i went through involved either wearing pink nonstop for a year or trying to dress like Posh Spice (i.e. classy not slu*ty... meaning no sneakers - i was only in 2nd grade @ the time)

then again, when i was little i loved watching pokemon. i still have my N64 and play it on occasion. i loved the jungle gym, climbing, roughhousing, that kinda stuff. i love fear factor and family guy. i also play ice hockey which a lot of people see as a man sport. and i never tried not making a mess when i was a little kid eating. hehe

i dont like the feel of make up... can do lipstick nd maybe a little blusher but i hardly ever bother.. mascara s horrid.. i just hate that.


btw... hia morphia

I'm an adult AS female, and I'm a bit of a tomboy.

Hrm... Agreed there!

I'm an aspie girl, only diagnosed a few months ago. I have not had a problem meeting guys: just get on any internet dating site and there are so many aspie guys! Also in my job there are quite a few: like many I find it easier and more interesting to talk to guys, as they can talk objectively, not chat about their friends and family all the time. I have had trouble, however, staying in relationships until recently, as either the guys priority is his work, or we are too similar to help each other cope in the real world with normal people. With one of these guys, we were both in denial, and trying to be normal without much success, so this was particularly hard.
My current man (for 3 yrs) has aspie traits but I don't think the full syndrome: he has good people skills most of the time, particularly with strangers. I think this is actually more healthy than being with someone just like me: its more of a challenge, and means there are more surprises for both if us. There was not such an instant attraction, though, as with Aspie type guys.

If you're interested in more personal profiles, several of which address the tomboy issue, you may want to check Jean Kearns Miller's book, "Women From Another Planet?"

It's hard to find a balance between a tomboy and a woman who isn't totally stuck up. You know, the shallow traits you see in women from all those American 'comedies' and 'teen' movies.

i'm about the same way except the dressing right thing and looking cute those i don't care about.
i also like violent video games but not to violent. they can have a story or not i don't care.
i mostly played with hotwheels growing up and now i collect them.
my room is filled with tons of electronics and i don't like to shop for anything but electronics my latest is a camera that can fit in the palm of my hand.

Some people would say that you're a gay man trapped inside a female body. I could marry someone like that....


Autism is sometimes described as "extreme male brain syndrome". Not extreme enough to want to sit on the sofa and drink beer and watch football, perhaps, but at least enough to be analytical and practical. Don't feel bad - I wish there were more girls like that.

I think that's the most elegant explanation I could ever ask for!

I think that, if I were to be given a dollar for every time I've been called a sissy, wimp, or homosexual (and in not such polite terms), I'd never need to work again.

I am a straight male, but I've never quite been able to 100% fit that stereotype enough for most other people, and never really felt a need to, except for the obvious dis-appointment my family has felt over my failure in that particular.

"Tom-boys" appeal to me, they act more like "normal human beings" than girls who fit the feminine stereotype. I don't mean a girl who looks like a man, but rather, a girl who isn't dependant and helpless and brainless (or, more precisely, has perfected that image). Not one whose appearence and every action is an attempt to communicate a promise that the highest bidder will win the perfect victim to defend and control.

Hurrah for aspergers tom-boys!

I was adopted at 5 by a women with 3 boys who wanted a little girl to dress up....I was a major disappointment.I hated dresses because they were often uncomfortable and prohibited free movement when climbing trees and jungle gym,walking in the woods(scratched legs bruised knees)I would tell my mom it was gym day at school to get out of wearing them..........

My favorite toys were my stuffed animals, they were my buddys and I stem on fur...love fur...preferably walking breathing fur....fur=kitty jammies...also loved, collecting rocks,wood,bark,bone,moss,dead bugs from walks in the woods and building litle forts for my "pet bugs"....once I got help for my reading problems my favorite thing was books,books,books........

I've tried "girl things", but still feel like i'm "in-drag" in dresses or makeup.Feel like reading all the rules about being a girl are boring and waste of time.My girliest feature has always been being boycrazy....but even the ones that liked me for the very tomboy characteristics seemed to eventually want me to look more girly....go figure.At 39 I finnally found someone who excepts my aspie and tomboy traits(like to build,refinish furniture) and even appears to love me for them istead of inspite of them....big difference.After reading many of these forms I now feel that I may not be from another planet or , at the least, there are others here from my planet....nice feeling..

I don't know what is it "tomboy" but I think that is situation when the women is as (similar) man?
(sorry - my engish is hopeless, I'm dislex)
I'm "tomboy" for sure. When I was very little girl I had any dolls and I liked to play them but I prefered "jigsaw puzzle" (?), blocks (?), "roller-coaster" (?) and other toys . but when I learned to read I forget about dolls. I read Vinetou and other books about some adventures in wild country... In primary school I was a scout. This was a millitary team. We drove to range and we sniped, drove a tank and ran in the forests. When my mother had bought me "pretty, red dress" I cryed.
now I don't clothe skirt and dresses (often uncomfortable), I hate pink colour.. I prefer black, brown, navy blue, khaki. I'm very concrete. I don't understand fashion and style. I hate journals for women, programs in TV for womens, I hate soup - operas and "Ally McBeal";) Few years ago I play
My husbend say often: "be women" because I don't want make - up. I hate shopping. My husband hate shoping too, so we love shopping together:)
My got. This was the longest post in english which I wrote in my live!

I was always a tomboy, too. I play hockey and like fishing. I never played with dolls. I NEVER thought I would be a mother. I now have two boys, and thank God I didn't have girls. I wouldn't know what to do with them.

However, being a Mom has brought out the nurturing female side of me and I will now wear pink without vomiting. I still dislike wearing flowery things.

I guess I can't say if it's an Aspie thing because I haven't been diagnosed, yet. But the more I read, the more I wish I grew up knowing all of you. It would have been great to actually relate to someone!

hello, just reading all of your post about this yall are describing my 10 year old daughter. she is the only grand daughter, the only child we have so she is with boys all the time and we home school so there you go. she doesnt like dolls as a matter of fact she says she hates them. i used to buy her them all the time hoping she might eventually play with them. but nope. so i quit buying them. she loves basketball anything rough and tumbly. have a great day and LIFE. megans mom

Hmmmm...interesting indeed. Yes, I am totally a tomboy. I grewup in a house full of girls. I was like my dad's son. I fix cars. Heck, I fix anything. I don't like girly stuff. I wear jeans and t-shirts. Always have, always will. I would much rather mow the lawn than vacuum the carpet. I hate to be around girly-girls. My first career was as an electrician. I was in a union and when we priced ourselves out of a job...I went back to school. I just got my doctorate from pharmacy school. I am straight, but enjoy gay women, because usually they aren't sissies. I have been married for 28 years to an awesome man. He is not threatened by me and he cooks and clean and I appreciate him very much. I have ADHD and am very active and take on all kinds of challenges. I have always loved science. I knew he was the one when I found out he had read the Lord of the Rings trilogy, The Dune trilogy, Stranger in a Strange Land, and when he didn't jump out of my jeep when I took him up my favorite hill. We bow and rifle hunt. I love animals. I fancy myself a dog-whisperer. I love horses and am not partial to cats, but judge them individually. I have 3 kids. A set of twin daughters and a son. One of my daughters is feminine and one is like me. My son is very masculine like his dad. As I said I love science and all 3 kids share that with me. I taught science enrichment when they were in elementary. I don't have alot of girlfriends because I don't have anything in common with them. Very interesting question....Glad to see I'm not alone. But then I wasn't all that worried about it.

Female and tomboy here too.
Dont know if I look tomboyish outside, though when younger i certainly did, but have male interests and way of thinking.