Which school years were you most isolated from your peers??

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I picked 3-5, but it really should have been K-5 (well, not so much in kindergarten, but I changed schools in the middle of first grade and things got worse in terms of bullying from there). By 6th I was learning to blend in a bit--having multiple class periods actually helped in that respect. I thought I made friends then, but they stabbed me in the back--oh well.

By high school I really didn't care anymore. I hung out with a few male friends, but I was pretty content to be by myself. That has persisted, more or less. I have my bf, and some of his friends (who are some of the nicest people I've ever met, btw), plus acquaintances from work.

I guess I'm still "isolated" for the most part, but it doesn't bother me.

I'd be interested in seeing the poll results. Unfortunately, I can't view them, as none of the poll options fit. I'm going to try not to be too long-winded in explaining my social experiences through the years.
In Kindergarten, I did some talking to my peers, but I didn't interact much, and I kept to myself during times of the day when other children were playing together.
In first grade, I had one friend I would play with, and I did sometimes talk to other children as well.
In second grade, my one friend made two new friends who didn't like me, and that friendship ended. I was not able to move on and make new friends. That year, I also had a teacher who did not understand my difficulties, in spite of having a copy of my IEP, and attending IEP meetings to discuss my educational needs. She regularly disparaged my abilities and humiliated me in front of my peers. From that time on, I became increasingly quiet and withdrawn in school. Within a couple of years, this progressed to the point where I almost completely stopped speaking in school, giving mumbled one-word answers to my shoes when someone spoke to me. This is how it was for pretty much the remainder of my time in the public school system.
In high school, I did start talking a little more, and I gained a small measure of recognition as an editorial writer for the school newspaper. However, I was still very quiet, and I didn't make any actual friends.
In college, I was somewhat more social. I had some transient friendships, and one that endured. I went through some periods of isolation there as well.
I was working full time through most of my time in graduate school, attending part time and commuting to classes from work. I did talk to my peers somewhat, though I mostly stayed quiet. I didn't even know how to make friends in that situation, and I honestly had too much going on to even be interested in making friends.
No, there's no poll option that comes close to fitting my situation.
ETA: This was pretty long-winded, in spite of my best efforts. I still have a long way to go toward mastering the art of brevity.

Oh and btw Outerboroughgirl if you want to know the results then I'll tell you this: Nobody has voted for grade K-2 yet, 7 people voted for grade 3-5 and another 7 has voted for grade 9-10, grade 6-8 has had the most votes, while grade 11-12, college/university, and never having a friend has had a little less votes but several have been counted thus far.

Up till third grade I had no idea what friends were and I didn't associate with anyone outside of family. February 1989 when I was half way through third grade was the first time someone ever called me up. I was completely taken aback and surprised when mom knocked on my door to my bed room and told me I had a phone call.

That summer was the first time someone ever came over to pay me a visit. Between then and the end of 7th grade in 1993 I was at my social peak so to speak. From June 1994 to January 1996 it all went away and I didn't get any phone calls or visits at all.

Things began to pick up and I hit a second social peak during the year 1998. Beyond that as I began to work more I really haven't felt much like having a social life outside of school and work.

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