Capable of hatred?

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I can do both. Ive forgiven some people in situations where others might not. And Ive held grudges for years in other cases. Given my experience and the comments above, I dont think any of this is related to AS.

Several of the people Ive held grudges against have died over the years. Three that I know of. When I hear of their deaths I think, "well, that's for the best" and take pleasure in it. One died of brain cancer and to this day I think he had it coming.

I forgive easily, but I don't forget. I often just don't care enough either way to hold a grudge or to hate someone with any real conviction.

I wouldnt go so far and say Im incapable of hatred, because I havent met a person that deserves that much attention yet.

I have been treated very badly at times, but I grew out of holding grudges against anybody.

I believe that the ones that waste their time with hating somebody, are the ones that have a problem.

I like to think I am more capable of disdain rather than hatred.

To me, hatred denotes that there is some occupation of resources internally, where I feel those resources could be better applied elsewhere. Hatred seems to be an active process, where disdain is implicit. I can extremely dislike something but not brood over the state of not liking such a thing, but rather try (keyword) to move intellectually into a higher place. Hatred is dwelling.

I think as Maje was to imply, that actively hating something does no good for the hater. The hater would be better served in some personal positive posturing rather than diminishing the self with negativity.