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22 Feb 2011, 11:13 am

Someone who wants you to change who you are just to fit in does not want the best for you.



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22 Feb 2011, 11:53 am

Yeah but i also want to fit in as well if you know what i mean. Its not just my dad wanting me to confrom its me also.

I know you lot here probably love the fact that you don't really fit in that well but it does not give me any thrill or happyness with the idea i am an outcast. :(



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22 Feb 2011, 11:59 am

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Hey come on cornflake don't mock what my dad said because some aspies can conform.

He's just wants the best for me thats all.
I wasn't mocking him or what he said.
I was just saying to you 'good luck with forcing yourself to be "normal", against everything your neurology makes you'.


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22 Feb 2011, 12:01 pm

I know Cornflake i think its very hard to act normal and you have to make a lot of effort to do it.

i am going through bad depression at the moment as well so life is very hard for me.


Remember as well I might not have 'Aspergers' pers say but semantic pragmantic disorder but YES i understand as well that i may have been misdiagnosed with that becasuse AS was unheard of in the early to mid 90's when i was a child.



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22 Feb 2011, 12:18 pm

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WOW wavefreak your 52? I thought you were not much older than me :)


I'm so old my farts have farts 8O


ROTFLMAO!! !!

Just this weekend I was with my ASD kid (the one I am mentoring) and he got embarassed when I climbed a statue outside of the restaraunt where we just ate. I told him to chill out and relax a little because the deal is like this.... "I have ZERO percent chance of ever being considered normal so I figure I might as well embrace my weirdness." ;) Weird is not a bad thing folks. It simply means not the majority.



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22 Feb 2011, 12:20 pm

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I know Cornflake i think its very hard to act normal and you have to make a lot of effort to do it.
Well yes, it is very hard and it can be hard over your whole lifetime.
Realistically I think the best you'll manage is an uncomfortable compromise. Uncomfortable for you to maintain, and a compromise in that you may appear more "normal" to others.
But the first and biggest problem is to define "normal".

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i am going through bad depression at the moment as well so life is very hard for me.
:cry: Hmm, I know that's not good and I'm sorry you're stuck in it.


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22 Feb 2011, 12:31 pm

Well its not terrible depression and i am controlling it by taking fish oil tablets which do help a lot since i am taking the strongest dose of fish oil tablets :)



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22 Feb 2011, 12:32 pm

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I climbed a statue outside of the restaraunt where we just ate.
:lmao: Wish I'd seen that!


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22 Feb 2011, 12:33 pm

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Well its not terrible depression and i am controlling it by taking fish oil tablets which do help a lot since i am taking the strongest dose of fish oil tablets :)
Have you spoken to your Doctor about it?


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22 Feb 2011, 12:54 pm

Jamesy wrote:
Yeah but i also want to fit in as well if you know what i mean. Its not just my dad wanting me to confrom its me also.

I know you lot here probably love the fact that you don't really fit in that well but it does not give me any thrill or happyness with the idea i am an outcast. :(


You make a lot of assumptions. Do you think I've always "loved" being weird? It was a hard lesson learned, one which someday you will figure out. By an large you get very little return for the energy you put into conforming. You are operating under the illusion that conforming pays big dividends. So go ahead, crush your soul in an effort to fit in with people that will discard you at a moments notice. It is better to have one good friend that accepts you for exactly what you are than dozens of friends that bend you to their expectations.

Instead of putting energy into fitting in, put your energy into something you love to do. Do it so well that people look past your quirks.


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22 Feb 2011, 1:18 pm

Your a wise man wavefreak.

Wavefreak are you from england?



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22 Feb 2011, 1:20 pm

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Your a wise man wavefreak.

Wavefreak are you from england?


Nope. I did live in Cardiff in California. Does that count?


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22 Feb 2011, 1:27 pm

What are peoples attitude towards 'aspergers' in the US?



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22 Feb 2011, 1:37 pm

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What are peoples attitude towards 'aspergers' in the US?


Some people are jerks.

Some people are nice.

Most people don't know anything about it. Ignorance can be a really bad thing because then people do or say things that are sometimes harmful even when they don't mean to be.


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22 Feb 2011, 2:19 pm

I think u should be grateful you live in the states wavefreak because in england i think possibly people have a much harsher view on autisic people since british people tend to be narrowminded and too worldly where as you americans think outside the 'box'.

I love england as a country but us autistic people are just stuffed in a small Island where we are outnumbered by NTs whereas as america is spread out more and is a vast continent. and you get more people from different backgrounds. think about it wavefreak our population is not much smaller than yours we live in a tiny island where there is a lot of prejudice. Nasty :(



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22 Feb 2011, 2:43 pm

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I think u should be grateful you live in the states wavefreak because in england i think possibly people have a much harsher view on autisic people since british people tend to be narrowminded and too worldly where as you americans think outside the 'box'.



Clearly you've never been around red necks. :roll:


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