I don't feel Male at all
I feel female in every way. OK, I don't wear skirts and I'm not keen on clothes shopping and I don't wear make-up, but that doesn't make me feel any less of a female. I don't like clothes shopping because of all the crowds. I can't wear make-up because I find it hard to stop my hands trembling when I'm doing something fiddly (I do have Dyspraxia), and so I find grooming myself very difficult and quite fiddly, same with using scissors in a straight line or writing neatly. Otherwise, I do try to look as feminine as I possibly can, and I act feminine aswell. I love the colour pink and I like butterflies. I've never liked getting myself dirty as a child.
Also I fancy men and have true feelings for them, just like other women. And I like gossip and bitching.
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I'm on the same boat as Anbuend and Buryuntime.
I only consider myself to be male because of my body, if I were to wake up tommorow in a female body I wouldn't really mind. It'd take a while to get used to the changes of course, but I wouldn't have a problem redefining my gender (or sex, this all confuses me) because in my mind it doesn't have an effect on who I am.
I'm female, but my gender identity and personality are definitely not female. I feel more male, or possibly neutral.
I don't fit well into either gender when it comes to gender roles, stereotypes and relating to/having things in common with others of the same gender, but I definitely lean much more on the male side. Most of the time I think of myself as male because that's what I've always felt was a closer match. I actually have to remind myself somtimes that I'm female.
I don't like when people make assumptions about me or have specific expectations of me just because of my biological gender. I don't fit into their little boxes and I'm tired of having to explain myself for not fitting their ideas of a female, or having to prove myself when people assume the opposite of what I'm really like, or listen to people tell me what I should want and what I should be like just because of my gender. I am me, I'm not a gender!
I'm happiest when people don't make any assumptions or judgements about me in relation to my gender and just treat me neutrally. If they can't live without putting me into a male or female box, I'd rather they put me in the male box, because that's a closer match and it's easier to get people to let me out of that box when it doesn't fit that to convince them I don't into the female box.
It actually used to be very common for people to think I was a guy (I looked like one when I was younger) and I kind of enjoyed that and most of the time I didn't correct them. I don't look as male anymore, but I definitely think, talk and act like one much of the time. Most people who talk to me online assume that I'm male without me saying anything anything about my gender either way, and they're usually surprised if I tell them I'm female, because I don't act like it. I think that's a pretty good confirmation that my mind is pretty male. I'm not feminine by any stretch of the imagination.
I don't hate my female body though, like apparently many transgendered people do. I don't care much whether my body is male or female. I just wish people didn't try to define me based on which gender my body is, because it doesn't match my mind well.
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Which researchers?
Are you sure?
Are you talking about sex linked inheritance?
In sex linked inheritance, there can be a recessive allele on the X chromosome and no corresponding allele on the Y chromosome. If "A" is the dominant allele and "a" is the recessive, then the genotype in the male would be "a0". The recessive trait would be expressed in the phenotype (outward appearance) of the organism, because there's no genetic material on the corresponding "missing arm" of the Y chromosome.
Okay it's really a "bit of an arm missing". One chromatid on the Y chromosome is not as long as on the X. I was told not to write "a bit of an arm missing" on my biology course, just to think it. I was told that this "missing" genetic material from that arm of the Y chromosome is why males are more susceptible to "severe" genetic "conditions". In this grossly oversimplified model, the male could end up with "A" on the X chromosome and "0" on the Y. If the condition was caused by the expression of the recessive "a" allele, then a "A0" male would be unaffected by the condition. An "a0" male would be affected. The chance that a male will be affected by the condition if he has a "A0" father and a "Aa" mother is about 1/2.
Females have two X chromosomes, so the possible combinations of alleles are: "AA", "Aa" and "aa". The female has more genetic material than the male, this can act as a "buffer" to some genetic conditions. The fully affected condition of "aa" combination in a female is much more unlikely than in a male. A female would have to have a fully affected father "a0" and a heterozygous carrier "Aa" or a homozygous "aa" affected mother in order to inherit the condition. With many conditions (such as haemophillia) it is unlikely that a fully affected individual will survive long enough to reproduce. In haemophilia, there are usually only "Aa" females that carry the condition: there are no "aa" females.
Heterozygous females "Aa" can be carriers or partially express a genetic condition depending on the condition.
In reality, genetic conditions can be much more complex. There can be polygenetic inheritance (more than one pair of alleles influencing a phenotype). Also epigenetics (the environment influencing which genes in the organism get "switched on or off".
Google "sex linked inheritance".
This process is easier to understand with diagrams.
Also, professional biologists can probably explain this much more clearly and less "casually" than I can.
If I've made any mistakes, let me know.
Thanks.
^ This.
Yes, same with me.
I absolutely know that most people (including many autistic people) do have gender stamped on their brain like that. I only realized it was real after knowing trans people, some of whom were literally suicidal because they had a strong sense of gender and it totally clashed with the body and social role they were expected to have. And most cis (non-trans) people have an equally strong sense of gender, and would be horrified if they woke up in the typical body of the "opposite" sex. Even most "in between" people have a sense of gender, it's just somewhere in between male and female. Whereas I have no sense of gender, not "gender neutral", but "gender nonexistent", so all of this is really foreign to me.
I want to suggest that there is a sense of physical sex "male, female, etc" and a sense of gender "man, woman, etc."
My sex is pretty strongly stamped, I can't imagine being other than female and would not want to be other than female. My gender is not so strongly stamped - I'm a woman because it's expected of me, and there have been times where my ability to portray myself as a woman was very important to my well-being, and times that I've felt it was very important to my sense of identity. But lately, upon consideration, my attachment to being seen as and seeing myself as a woman is primarily a reaction to elements of my life history and the people around me, and not necessarily sometimes I would otherwise have been invested in without my particular history and being around those particular people.
I don't mean the general social pressure to be a woman, but people specifically pushing me and berating me for not being properly feminine enough while I had a strong sense that I need to fit in and not stand out. So, I'm not sure I really am attached to the idea of being a woman, but I am certainly in every social sense a woman. I know that I am not in any sense a man and do not want to be one. I also did not actually consider myself a woman until approximately 12 years ago, although I was certainly perceived as one before that, and it had as much to do with coming out as lesbian as anything else (as in, lesbians are women attracted to women, and therefore I'm a woman, although maybe not quite that explicit at the time).
I don't think sex is just about sex organs, but also about biochemistry (that is to say, hormones and how they impact the body, among other things) and to some extent neurology (hence the extremely high suicide rate for transgender people that seems to start at an earlier age than other demographics).
I don't think sex and gender are strictly the same thing, although sex is the gendered way that human bodies are labeled, and people are expected to have a gender that matches the label they're assigned at birth.
I do not think gender is an innate feature but a cultural construct. I do think that there is something going on for some people, a kind of identification with others who resemble them in particular ways (or resemble who they know they should be), that may facilitate gender identification. But what gender identification means is culturally defined.
I hope the above is stated clearly.
Seems clear enough to me. In my case, I have no particular tie to my physical sex either, either hormonally or body-shape-wise. I feel like I could wake up a man tomorrow and not feel that I'd lost anything. And that seems incredibly rare.
Me too.
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Authentic cadence: V-I
Plagal cadence: IV-I
Deceptive cadence: V- ANYTHING BUT I ! !! !
Beethoven cadence: V-I-V-I-V-V-V-I-I-I-I-I-I-I-I-I-I-I
-I-I-I-I-I-I-I-I! I! I! I I I
I feel quite male, lol
My favorite movie is 300
I watch porn regularly.
I have a long scruffy beard.
I have a profound love for fast cars and the smell of petrol.
I love guns.
I listen to heavy metal.
I play with fire.
I scratch myself in public.
I curse like a pirate.
I find farts to be the funniest thing on earth.
I don't think any of that is very feminine.....
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I don't feel male, I feel like I'm a female surrounded by females who dress and behave in baffling ways.
I really don't understand how many females can find shopping for uncomfortable clothes at a crowded shopping centre enjoyable. I do not understand how they are able to carry out a conversation with a friend, text at the same time and make their way through a crowd. I don't know how they can do all of these things without stumbling over cracks in the pavement or bumping into people. I don't do all of these things, but I still stumble over my own feet. I sometimes collide accidently with pillars and dustbins.
I don't understand how they can be spontaneous and not make meticulous plans. I don't see why they crowded/loud artificial environments do not make them feel stressed and sick. I don't understand why they feel the need to move around in herds and chat constantly. I don't know why they paint their nails and faces in peculiar ways or why they think this is important. I don't know how they can do all of this and do their schoolwork and take a driving test and get a Saturday job, have hundreds of boyfriends and go out with their friends. I don't understand how they can have the energy, the time or the sanity to do all of these things.
I don't know how they can enjoy all of that blaring music and bright colours at the shopping centre without becoming disorientated and feeling ill. I do not see how they cannot focus on the species of fossils in the masonry of the shopping centre. I do not understand why the intricate patterns in carpet at the bank do not make them feel dizzy.
I don't know how they can focus on what the person at the till is saying with all of the music playing with singers wailing their manufactured lovesongs in the foreground and bright lighting fixtures. I don't know how people can focus on making transactions without becoming distracted by the lyrics of the song. Perhaps these romantic songs are meant to drown out the nasty, crowded, horribly unbearable reality?
I am a female. Being overwhelmed in certain situations doesn't make me any less female.
I think that I would like shopping more if it wasn't such sensory/social torture.
This is why I shop online.
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