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13 Mar 2011, 11:00 am

Xenia wrote:
I am hoping this is an aspie trait and I'm not just going to sound wierd.

I always have a person in my head that I'm always talking to. It will be the same person for months or years. I can remember all the people it has been. They are not significant, when I was young it was usually a school teacher, always female (I'm female) and older.

I don't think anything wierd, just chat about all different things in a way I could never do in real life from conversations about my garden to my childhood. Also I always play out scenarios where they would have to give me a hug, I would love a friendly hug but would freeze or pull away in real life. When I'm with the person in real life I fail to have any conversation.

I guess I am just playing out the social aspects of life I can't actually do.

Am I odd or do others do this?

I don't think so - I saw this portrayed in a Belgian movie called Ben X that was about an Aspie.


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13 Mar 2011, 7:48 pm

Well, this is a common trait for ADD / ADHD people as well, and it seems to be very common with manic depressives.

No offense intended, of course. After all, not even manic depressives think these people are really there, and as long
as we know these people are imaginary, there's no problem, unless we start talking loud enough to get people's attention.



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13 Mar 2011, 8:01 pm

If I imagine future conversations with people.I try to interpret what their response would be...then i actually speak to them in real life and they dont respond the way they should do and I am then at lost of what to say...
I try not to do this very often but it puts my mind at ease before I meet the person/s.
I talk to myself in my head as in not a specific person that I know...usually I just do this for relief in a stressful enviornment...

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13 Mar 2011, 11:20 pm

deadinhead wrote:
If I imagine future conversations with people.I try to interpret what their response would be...then i actually speak to them in real life and they dont respond the way they should do and I am then at lost of what to say...
I try not to do this very often but it puts my mind at ease before I meet the person/s.
I talk to myself in my head as in not a specific person that I know...usually I just do this for relief in a stressful enviornment...

deadinhead.


I can imagine dr spock doing exactly the same thing. Future conversations are easier if you have data or profiles from the person you are about to speak to in real life. Then it's easy to manufacture an imaginary role play prior to the actual event based on past experience and a certain level of binary logic.

This is more difficult with somebody you've never met even if you have second hand information on them.



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14 Mar 2011, 2:31 am

I've had imaginary friends ever since I was 5 years old. I imagine going on adventures with them when I listen to music, and I sometimes talk to them when no one else is around. I even voice their responses back to myself, using their accents. I once went through a phase where I would talk to my imaginary friends whenever and wherever I felt like it, regardless of whether or not other people could hear me, including places like school and the grocery store.

I'm not creative enough to come up with my own imaginary friends, so I have used characters from TV shows, movies and books that I've enjoyed. I sometimes use real people in my imagination, but only as heavily exaggerated enemies or love interests. The role of trusted friend and traveling companion is always reserved for my favorite fictional characters.



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14 Mar 2011, 4:38 am

evil_eyes wrote:
Yensid, I know how you feel. There's someone in my head I can't shut up, but it's very likely that we would be able to. It's our freaking MIND after all. But for some reason it doesn't go away. I wonder why.


My shrink has taught me to talk to the voice, and calmly face it. That helps, but doesn't completely get rid of it. I agree that it does seem odd that there are parts of our own mind that we can't control, but the human brain is such a complicated thing. I suspect that we have a lot less control over it than we believe.


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14 Mar 2011, 5:56 am

I think a lot of of my thoughts are directed at some imaginary entity, though it's usually not the same person all the time. Sometimes after I actually have a good conversation with someone, I carry it on in my head for some time afterwards. Sometimes the person my thoughts are directed at is myself at another time in my life.