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Jonsi
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06 Apr 2011, 5:54 pm

My inability to socialize stems from my intense fear of hurting people. I'm not sure how that developed, but I've always been like that.



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06 Apr 2011, 9:16 pm

I like socializing with people I get along with, but I do not get along with most 'normal' people...I would rather be alone then try to socialize with people who dislike anything out of the ordinary. But yeah even with people I get along with sometimes it can get overwhelming so I may have to take some time to myself.



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06 Apr 2011, 9:35 pm

43 with the interests of a 20 something... doesn't go over real well.

I actually had a kid in a parking lot tell me I was too old to be listening to music like White Zombie. Because old people don't listen to music like that... 8O

And people wonder why I hide in my hidey hole.



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07 Apr 2011, 12:17 am

The last time I attempted to have a social life, I was deceived, misused, betrayed, demeaned, bullied, insulted, abandoned, and treated like a joke by everyone.

In lamest terms, I'm done with socializing for life.



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07 Apr 2011, 3:55 am

Joe90 wrote:
I lack confidence, I have low self-esteem, I'm too sensitive, and I can't change this because I've been told somewhere on WP that most Aspies cannot escape those weird vibes we give off, whatever we do to try and improve ourselves (and I constantly try to better myself and try to be more assertive, and I still seem to find myself being crapped upon).

I believe that progress can be made in spite of what they say. Just that it's hard work and we can't keep it going for very long without breaks to decompress. Most NTs seem too impatient and judgemental to give us a fair chance, but not all of them are like that.



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07 Apr 2011, 4:11 am

A mixture of things...

Social anxiety is one of them, feeling overloaded and exhausted from socialising is another one, not being able to keep up with the amount of social interaction most people need is another (not enough alone time at which point I get highly stressed), and not enjoying the act of socialising for socialising sake...although I do enjoy talking about my interests with people at times and I like sharing and developing bonds with people. However, I don't need lots of friends. One or two very close ones that I share a connection with is my preference.