talking to my parents about my limitations is a waste

Post Reply New Topic

yeah it saves it as some weird .flv file but i know i put it on as a .wmv.
i don't know of any places to host any videos besides photobucket and you tube.

yeah some videos have been hard for me but i find the more i do the easier it becomes.

well my parents want me to drive, get a job, live on my own, associate with them more often [this is a losing battle], get out of the house more often [not even if they paid me], and take care of myself. the most recent was about deoderent which i blatenly hate i don't like putting it on, using it, or the fact that it doesn't even work, i don't even like how it feels solids or gells. and just now i whipped the damn thing across the room because i am tired of my mom bagering me about it then putting it in front of my face. basicly she has instilled a hatred of this crap in me. i personally only think it is nessesary if you are going out.

Ok lets look at it one thing at a time:

want me to drive - You may never be comfortable driving and you dont have to be.. personally I am not confident enough in my driving ability to get a license and do it.. I can physically but Im kinda dangerous and worry about hurting others which just makes me more nervous. I carpool with other people at work or take the bus everywhere.

get a job, live on my own - Getting the job is really the hard part.. its just a matter of putting in applications preferably doing something you enjoy. At the time I was looking for work I was in the middle of a 10 year stretch of computer obsession so I put it to use and got a job as a systems administrator. My boss was cool and seemed to understand me even though I never told him my Dx.

Perhaps you could apply for a job with a production company doing digital video editing?

associate with them more often - Cant help you much there other than to say if you dont live with them you dont have to put up with them as much.. I moved from texas to nevada and havent spoken to my family in like 2 years

get out of the house more often - again if you dont live with them they dont have any say in what you do with your free time.. Im a bit of a hermit other than this bowling thing lately I spend all my time away from work in my apartment and never go out.

and take care of myself. - its not as hard as it seems.. there are varying degrees of "taking care of yourself" but living alone you get to decide how much or how little you do so.. I live mostly off of TV dinners and take-out I dont wear deoderant often unless Im trying to make a good impression and take baths only every other day (I hate water) luckily Im not the type to smell funny even without those things.. anyways the point is if your old enough to live alone and do so your family no longer has a say in the matter.

I think you'd be much happier living on your own than with them.. you have a lot more freedom to be yourself.

i could just take the bus or ride with others if i didn't live in like the black hole of the country, basicly there is nothing out here. no stores or like anything.

i'd like to get a job where i don't have to cosintrate to much, i can think of my story the whole time, i can bring my dang music with me, and know one talks to me at all. i was thinking of stocking shelves after the store is closed.

yeah i could if it wasn't for my two rules about videos.

1. no live footage.
2. no stale pictures unless they are absolutely nessecary and take up 1/4 of the video or less.
oh wait there is a third.
3. i have to tolorate the music.

that's about what i do right now in terms of caring for myself. but i sweat like a guy [no offence if you are a guy] i won't go much deeper about that. i would get take out everyday if i wasn't allergic to so many things so i have a strick diet.

yes i probably would be happier living on my own and even happier if they didn't know my phone number so when someone's birthday rolls around they don't badger me about it. or get pressured into doing things so much.

Just do what I did.. find a friend on the internet who lives in a faraway city who will let you move in with them for a little while till you get a job and a place to live, then dont get a phone (or if you do dont tell your family you have one).

i don't have any internet friends, the only friend i got lives far away and she's younger then me and still is with her parents.

also i think i'm on welfare or something and if i move i have to notify them so moving away secretly isn't that easy to do.

If you tell your parents you want to move away and start a life Im sure they'll be more than happy to help.

For instance when I finally got up the nerve to head out I was lucky enough to have a lot of friends on the internet and one offered to let me stay with him and his wife and my dad payed for the bus fare halfway across the country as well as giving me a few hundred dollars in pocket money to help me get by until I was settled.

In your case they might have friends or relatives they could contact to find you a place to stay and likewise would probably be more than willing to pay to get you started.

Not to say they dont want you around but its very rare for a parent to not support their children in any way they can in their endevours.

i might try that but i'm not ready mentally to live on my own i don't think. and i probably should get a job first so i can have some cash.

You'll never be completely prepared for living on your own so dont wait too long.. when everything else is ready just jump in and start treading water as best you can.

As for work.. building up some money first would be helpful but again dont let it distract you from your goal.

ok i'll try that.

darn the conversation is over.

xemnas: ......
what
xemnas: jet i thought you hated talking.
it gets lonely over here.

espeashily since my theropist got canceled and we were good friends too, oh well i guess.