Are you capable of hate?

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Whether it be the same as the mainstream hate emotion I cannot say. But I have been and am capable of intense [sometimes instant, usually mutual] dislike and disgust, and for years till I got free passed my time plotting horrible revenge on certain people.

Interesting. I suspect I may share your opinion.

yes i am capable of hate. i do not hate easily though. it takes too much effort and it must be earned through repeat offences or terrible offences. i hate my dad this way. the passion with which i hate him is a burning flame that eats at my heart. no not acid reflux. i also hate less tangible things like bigotry. sometimes i hate institutions like marriage or the church although my mind tells me that one cannot generalise and it is irrational to do so. its just the hate it directs towards my community(queers) and people it doesn't agree with offends me and hurts others.

i hate red traffic lights.

i hate getting up early in the morning.

i hate it when i go to buy milk, and it is only 1 day before it's use by date.

i hate it when there is an inordinately large amount of black jelly beans in my bag.

i hate when they do not drain the lettuce when i buy a hamburger. (it goes soggy and falls apart in my hands releasing sauce which dribbles down my arm that i must find a tap (faucet) to wash off almost immediately).

i hate when pedestrians press the button for pedestrians at the traffic lights surrounding pedestrian crossings on a straight and long road (with no intersections) that has no traffic on it but me at 5 in the morning. there is no traffic anywhere but only a vehicle every 10 minutes on a road that they can see 500 meters in both directions to be empty, yet they do not walk across the empty vast road, but they push the button on the pedestrian crossing anyway, and wait for a few minutes until a vehicle comes along and is stropped by the red light, and then they cross. i hate that.

but maybe i am just feeling disgruntled by those things and it is not really "hate". real "hatred" seems very evil and powerful and almost psychotic in a way. it is like a very negative force and if there was a devil, then that is where hate is born. i do not really "hate" in the way i have heard some people do. i just feel disgruntled to the extreme by some aspects of my environment.

i hate it when the self service queue is too long at the supermarket checkout . i know everyone wants to be in their own self service, but some people would do better clocking off their groceries with a "checkout chick" in the regular aisles.

i hate it when i am forced to use a regular aisle due to the incompetence of people with their children scratching the lice out of their hair while trying to work out how to use the self service computers.

i hate it that i have to say stuff to a random human who is scanning my goods while talking to me when i am forced to use the normal "counter girl" aisles.

i hate it even more when the regular aisle cashiers grab my loaf of bread and squash it while they try to get the plu number scanned over their scanning plates. they seem to scrunch the bread in their fingers and i become riled and i have said before "now that you have a successful scan, and you know the price, can i go and get an unmolested loaf to replace that one ?".

i hate people that have hatred in them. hatred is so ugly that i hate it very much.

severe hatred is the domain of the insane.

My favorite episode on Doom is Perfect Hatred.

Yes, I am capable of hate. I hate a few people with a passion.

Casual hatred: No.
Deep hatred: Yes.

When I grow to hate someone, it is for real and it is for keeps. Someone has to /really/ mess up repeatedly over a long period of time for them to reach that status though. Once that occurs, I do not want anything to do with them and will not even try to be nice to them. Such a person just does not exist for me anymore. 'Sorry' and other apologies in order to get back on my good side no longer apply for them.

There are only a handful of people that fall in that category for me.

No.
I can't hate because I rationalize decisions made by others. For example, I don't hate bullies because I can understand that from their point of view the social recognition that they get far outweighs the damage that they do to somebody (which they might not even be aware of). I can understand that they might not be intellectually capable of understanding that they do not have the right to bully someone, even if they get social recognition for it because they are unable to understand that something socially acceptable might not be ethically right.
Basically what I'm trying to say is that, I can't hate somebody because they are wired to do unethical/bad/'unacceptable'/... behaviour. Everyone is a mix of their environment and how they were born, not of their "free will" (which I don't think exists).

hating is easy for me.

I get angry. I loathe people. All these pass. I do not hate anyone. Much like AnonymousPasserBy, I can rationalise their decisions and try to view it from their perspective. Sometimes, I still do not understand people afterwards, because I don't see how they are logical even from their point of view. If that's the case, those people generally just scare me (Geert Wilders, Glenn Beck and Israel are examples of people or states I just don't get).

I do not even hate my bullies. If I would meet them now, perhaps I would get angry, most likely I would just remain calm.

I can hold a grudge and I can hate. I have been quite hateful towards my own husband and then turns into extreme guilt and a lot of negative thinking. I use to hold grudges on those who picked on me through jr. high and high school. I also get really jealous really easy, I am even jealous of my own husband because he was able to get a job. And I have been struggling with getting a job T_T. I hate feeling guilty all the time.

I am capable of hate, I just choose not to.

I hate the government of this country, and teenage girls because they laugh at me, children aged 1 to 3 because they're always screaming or bawling or both, bus-drivers who are unfriendly, paedophiles (I know one who I HATE and he's also a control-freak), and some girls who had bullied me in the past. When I look at these, (if they are stereotypically doing something to make me angry), I look at them and I have the urge to kick their heads in without no guilty feelings lurking next to my hatred. But I would never do it because it's not in me. I just think about it.

If I had powers (like on the film ''Carrie'')...

...I would use them on the government (especially David Cameron) for cutting all our services and jobs, and giving everything to foreigners in or out of this country, by making them poorer than us

...I would use them on any teenage girl who sniggers and smirks at me by making them turn into freaks so that everybody can laugh at them

...I would use them on toddlers who scream near me to turn their voice volume down

...I would use them on bus-drivers who are unfriendly and aren't the ones I love by turning them into the ones I love

...I would definately use it on that paedophile without caring which power I use

...and I would use it on the girls who bullied me by turning them into Aspies and seeing how isolated they feel.

I dont really know. There are people that I dont like because I know what they have done to me and I am afraid if they were to ever hang out with one of my family members they might do the same to them. I would rather end the other person before they ever caused the kind of pain they have caused me. So I guess depends on the situation and who or what I am hating.

I totally agree with your entire post. I could have wrote it myself.

Me too. I can just be very hurt but I cant hate anybody. I usually understand what led them to be cruel to me and the next second a moment later the brain activities of the person is naturally continuing with something else, leaving me no choice but accepting that animalic part of human existence because I cant change it. The first moment Im devastated (sometimes I cry) and maybe I hate the person, but it lasts for a short time. But ... I have not met a person that "deserves" so much attention that I go home hating him/her -> nobody has killed my family etc., so actually I cant really know if Im capable.

Last edited by Maje on 06 Aug 2011, 11:10 am, edited 1 time in total.

I've never hated anyone I've met before, because some part of me accepts the 'good' part of them as well. Even when it came to my bullies who made me feel absolutely terrible, I couldn't muster up the energy to hate them, probably partly because I thought the reason I was being bullied was my own fault.