How would you react to being told that your kid is an aspie?

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How would you react?
I would be happy, God meant something with giving you such a gift 5%  5%  [ 2 ]
I would be happy. The child is Aspie like me and I am proud to have passed on those genes. 43%  43%  [ 16 ]
I would be disappointed. I want my child to live a happy life and is not ideal that he might live his whole life alone and would never be able to find a mate. 8%  8%  [ 3 ]
I would be disappointed. The child might be bullied in school and will probably never graduate from high school because of it. 0%  0%  [ 0 ]
I would be happy. My child will with the right help be able to live a normal life with a good job, a partner and kids. 43%  43%  [ 16 ]
I would be disappointed. My child would probably need so much attention that it would ruin my quality time. 0%  0%  [ 0 ]
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26 May 2011, 1:20 pm

There are other options to being bullied and dropping out of school. There's virtual high school and homeschooling. Aspies are smart and good at test taking, so they can get their GED and go onto bigger and better things.



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26 May 2011, 11:42 pm

I could have picked any and all of the disappointed options, so I picked nothing.

I'd love my kid no matter what, but finding out he/she was Autistic would be devastating only because I want my child to have the opportunity to do and be anything they desire, and Autism puts up a barrier that can be very hard to deal with. I could take comfort in the fact that today a kid with AS can get help and do quite well, but that still relies on being "mild" on the spectrum.

Parents HATE watching their kids make the same mistakes they did. A loving parent wants to teach their kid not to do the wrong thing. We learn by painful mistakes and we want our kids to avoid having to learn things the hard way. When it becomes obvious that they are determined to make those same mistakes...it is heart wrenching.



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27 May 2011, 12:07 am

alexfromnorway wrote:
How would you react?


I would be cursing my genetics for dooming my offspring to life like the one I was forced to live through but unlike my parents I will push my kids. They never pushed me to do anything and I am the biggest waste of life right now. I would invest heavily in judo and boxing training for my kids its better if they are the ones doing the hitting then the getting hit. I would also make them to read Nietzsche, Tzun Tzu, and Machiavelli. My last two years of high school were spent free of torment due to the use of extreme violence. I would want my kids to be a pitbulls attacking the wolves who stalk the sheep. I would also push them into working on their education and try to find ways to teach them how to use their special intrests to their finacial advantage. I would want them to know if they try hard enough the same kids who made fun of them in school will be the schelpes who will be mowing their lawns and washing their cars. :wink: (I wish my parents would have done the same with me)


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27 May 2011, 5:32 am

Peronally I've considered not having children so that they don't have to go through what I have. Then again I could help them more now I understand my condition and how to cope a bit.