Do you cry more easily than most people?

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MrBoob
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04 Jun 2011, 3:11 pm

iSpeedy wrote:

I will cry over an animal before I will cry over a person, unless it is someone very close to me. I feel guilty about that sometimes.

This, too.

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04 Jun 2011, 5:51 pm

MrBoob wrote:

iSpeedy wrote:

I will cry over an animal before I will cry over a person, unless it is someone very close to me. I feel guilty about that sometimes.

This, too.

Me too.

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04 Jun 2011, 8:19 pm

Severus wrote:

MrBoob wrote:

iSpeedy wrote:

I will cry over an animal before I will cry over a person, unless it is someone very close to me. I feel guilty about that sometimes.

This, too.

Me too.

i have theory about this...

i think that we feel responsible to try to care for animals as they are fully innocent and vulnerable. regular people are often not completely innocent in the same way, so we have mixed feelings. along the same lines sometimes we feel very bad for people that we deem more innocent or vulnerable than the rest of us, like small children or babies, or severely disabled people.

but i don't know if other people think like that.

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04 Jun 2011, 8:37 pm

I cry very easily. Especially during films. I cry if they make me sad or happy but just about anything can set me off. I often cry when I see something of great beauty, like a picture, a bird in flight or the sun setting. Music also makes me cry for the same reason. If I haven't cried for a while I will actually watch a film to induce crying, I love the feeling and I find it incredibly cathartic.

I do get embarrased when I cry around people. I know most men are ashamed because it detracts from their macho image, but for me I just don't like being the centre of attention.

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04 Jun 2011, 8:46 pm

When I cry it is for a couple of minutes only (if I am around people, if I am home it can be longer since I don't try to control it).

But I look calm, except for the fact that there are tears streaming down my face. I sit there in the conversations (seems to happen mostly in conversations) listening. I can comment but rarely use energy to do so. Then I go in the bathroom, calm down and come out emotionally exhausted but able to continue work or whatever it is I was doing.

And I have a harder time controlling it if people try to comfort me. I think they have learned that since they don't anymore.

When I am upset about something specific I don't cry about it until I am home alone. When around people I say nothing about anything. I just listen but don't have the energy to participate.

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05 Jun 2011, 5:03 am

Would you say it's common for Aspies to be deeply moved by fiction but not find major life-events all that emotional?

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05 Jun 2011, 5:41 am

donnie_darko wrote:

Would you say it's common for Aspies to be deeply moved by fiction but not find major life-events all that emotional?

I don't know about others but I would say that sums me up pretty well. I seem to respond more to the act of happiness or sadness (as seen in fiction) than to things that should make me happy or sad and things that touch me deeply generally don't seem to affect others at all and vice versa. It's taken me a long time to realise how very different I translate emotion compared to other people.

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06 Jun 2011, 1:00 am

donnie_darko wrote:

Would you say it's common for Aspies to be deeply moved by fiction but not find major life-events all that emotional?

I cried reading the last harry potter book and was depressed for weeks. but when my grandmother died not a tear was shed, I wasn't even really sad.

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06 Jun 2011, 3:24 am

hyperlexian wrote:

Severus wrote:

MrBoob wrote:

iSpeedy wrote:

I will cry over an animal before I will cry over a person, unless it is someone very close to me. I feel guilty about that sometimes.

This, too.

Me too.

Very interesting! I often wondered why I'm this way too. I think it explains a lot, I thought of it too, but didn't dare to admit it fully, since I also feel guilty about it.

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06 Jun 2011, 3:56 am

Yes, I cry because of sadness, because of happiness, and just because of anger or extreme frustration or stress.

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06 Jun 2011, 5:23 pm

I have always had a tendency to get really moved by things, and I cry at the drop of a hat. It's usually due to either frustration, discouragement, or stress. It is most likely to happen when in conflict with someone else, as people have their own minds and thoughts and I can't change them.

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06 Jun 2011, 5:34 pm

I don't cry very often, but when I do it's eather because of sensory overload, are because I get to stressed out about something.

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06 Jun 2011, 7:57 pm

MooCow wrote:

donnie_darko wrote:

Would you say it's common for Aspies to be deeply moved by fiction but not find major life-events all that emotional?

I cried reading the last harry potter book and was depressed for weeks. but when my grandmother died not a tear was shed, I wasn't even really sad.

Yes! I would only cry at a grandparent's death if they were more like parents to me (like if my parents were deadbeats and my grandparents raised me instead).

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06 Jun 2011, 10:13 pm

I cry at everything. Unless it's like a sad film. Or in other words somebody elses problem. Sounds awfull, but if it's nothing to do with me I will just annalyze. It would be good if I could be more like that with myself rather than just breaking down. But no.

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07 Jun 2011, 1:49 am

I don't cry easily but when I do it generally feels good. I feel emotionally dead a lot of the time (that is when I'm not angry or depressed), so genuine sadness and/or sentimental poignant is kind of a welcome feeling. Anything is better than the stark dry depression I often find myself in.

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07 Jun 2011, 7:45 am

When I was younger this was true, but nowadays I am almost the opposite. I am kind of numb to most things.

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