Views of NTs from an Aspie

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I don't think they automatically know, but I think they learn these things more easily. It took me much longer to learn how to maintain my self-help skills, and I never completely mastered them all. And yeah, I went through a period where people had to tell me I needed to wash my hair or even remind me to bathe or shower, and I did learn a lot of these the hard way.

I guess what it comes down to is what anyone means when they say "common sense." I don't just mean self-help skills and fitting in, and I do not assume common sense is always correct.

I've found out that not all Aspies are shy, and not all NTs are confident. At work I've been working with someone for over a year now, and she is a middle-aged woman, and I knew she had some sort of social difficulty - I just knew she did. She was very chatty and loud, but shown a lot of Aspie traits - like she said she doesn't like loud noises, nor change of routine, and gets very anxious with the job-centre because she struggles to ask them things she needs to. Her moods also don't fit into the envorinment (not sure if this has been mentioned before on here, but I've found this with me. I seem to be in a type of mood which doesn't match the environment I'm in. It's hard to explain). This woman is like it too. If there has been an argument which is causing an atmosphere among all the workers but hasn't affected her, she will be bubbly and think everyone else will be bubbly and laugh back. But if everybody's in a good mood and are all having a laugh about something, and she's in a bad mood, she will mope about and try to get everyone else in the same mood at her. Something like that anyway. But she is a lot more chatty than me. Although I see her breaking a lot of social rules, (and people have commented on this behind her back), she doesn't care, and I think that's because she talks more than she thinks. I'm the opposite - I think more than I talk, which is why I take the time to worry more about what other people think of me. But anyway - once I was going through the volunteer applications, I came to this woman's application and saw that she had written ''high-functioning autism'' in the disability box. I was quite surprised, but I had learnt that not all Aspies are shy.
OK that is slightly off-topic there but it's sort of about the same thing, except I swapped it with ''Aspie's views of other Aspies''.

NTs when they are by themselves they do not have anything to say to me but those same NTs are with their friends they get mouthy with me. I had a meltdown once do to the actions of one NT and I assaulted him. It was funny those friends he was trying to impress by tormenting me did not lift a finger to help him in the fight. They did not even yell at me to leave him alone. Some friends.

I also seem to attract NTs who like my dark sense of humor. They will hang around with me non-stop for a week to a month then I never see them again when their friends tell them I am too weird. I have had people tell me that their friends did not like me so they have to stop coming over. F#cking Sheep.