Are you talkative when not on WP?

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I’m not talkative at all IRL, or for that matter even in chats. IRL there have been only 2 people who have been able to make me talk, my mother and my maternal grandfather. With them I have been able to talk continuously over a period of time.
With anyone else, including family, relatives and friendly acquaintances, I am very close to mute. I just never have anything to say, and when I don’t have anything to say, I stay quiet.
I have been told numerous times that I am so quiet, too silent, and so quiet it’s easy to forget that I’m there. I have even been forgotten!

I’ve been using the net for communication purposes for about 2, 5 years, and find it far preferable to and to some degree more real than RL, because written form is so much easier for me than face to face. When I began writing letters in my early teens, I was surprised to find that expressing myself was almost easy.
It never was or is IRL.
I find it so much easier to get the meaning through in writing than in speech. I can edit until I can live with the result (to say that I’m content would be an exaggeration), and take my time. At that age I had long since realised that I never have anything to say, and I was very surprised to find a means of communication that seemed to work. When I don’t have anything to say, I really can’t come up with anything, so I keep quiet. The combination writing and time somewhat negated that. So I enjoyed writing letters in the years when I was actively into pen-palling, and I enjoy writing forum posts. That’s not to say that I’m effective when I write though. I use close to an eternity to write some of them. Most long posts, including this, is something I have spent hours writing, not seldom days, sometimes even weeks. I am overly critical and take forever to get it right. I always do that, always spend too long time and being too critical... I can easily spend months getting a letter written.
Anyway, I digress.

Sometimes when I get nervous (or even excited) I stutter. Not always, but sometimes.

I’ve had a couple of pen-pals who were gonna come to the city where I live and asked if we could meet while they were there. I declined. I know how awkward I am IRL, and how I never have anything to say, and I knew it would simply be a quiet and embarrassing moment that might end up ruining what we did have.
I am used to keeping my thoughts to myself and keeping internal monologues rather than say anything aloud, even when I do have anything I could share. Being silent comes naturally to me.
And I can never ever come up with anything to say. I come up empty. I have had people I truly care about accuse me of not caring about them because I am silent around them. Despite me explaining it to them, they just don’t get it.

IOW, no I'm not talkative at all.

"Speech is silver, silence is gold!" Why can't that value still be alive and kickin'? Sigh...