Diagnosed Aspies: Did you have these traits?

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This is because you aren't making a distinction between "children are often messy" and "autistic children have delays in learning self-help skills." If they sound the same to you, either I explained myself poorly or you misunderstood me.

As a teenager I had to be explicitly reminded to shower, to wash my hair, and to brush my teeth. When I moved out on my own I didn't have those reminders any more and forgot to do those things, which cost me my first roommates. I am talking about what I was like at 18 years, not 8.

Now if you can point me to a large segment of the NT population (not just anecdotal references to individuals) who at 18 didn't understand why these things are necessary, please let me know. If you have a cousin or an aunt or uncle or friend somewhere who's NT and has trouble with hygiene I have to admit I'm not going to care, because we're not working with absolutes here and single exceptions neither test nor prove the rule.

Sorry, I thought we were just talking about small children. Yes - I've still got to be reminded to look in the mirror to see if there's anything like food around my mouth or any sleep in my eyes, and I'm 21. Well, not that I be reminded every day, but I do forget to do these things. Every single day I walk out of the house forgetting to do or to bring at least one thing. OK, I don't forget to have baths, but I have forgotten to put deoderant on. Also (stupidest thing of all), I went to meet a friend once, to do some shopping, and I forgot to bring money. All I had was about £1.60 in change in my purse. I forgot to put the 10 pound notes and 20 pound notes that I left beside my bed. What an idiot I am!! !


Sorry, it's just that I observe NTs too much, and seem to define at least 1 Aspie trait in every NT I've met in my life so far (which does not make them Aspie.)

It might be normal for boys to be 'messy', but girls are different. I remember the NT girls practically being obsessed with having pretty hair. Recess for them was practically brushing and braiding each other's hair in 2nd grade. /imnotevenkidding :U I'd get picked on by the other girls because I didn't conform with them. Perhaps the school I went to was full of freaks.

I don't know....when I was at primary school, I knew a girl who had alcoholic parents and was neglected, and every day she used to come into school with unwashed hair, and it was always tied in 2 plaits, and I could tell the plaits were never took out. So most children learn how to take care of themselves through their parents fussing over them.

That's me too.

I did have a speech delay didn't start talking until i was 6 years old and i do have difficulties in starting and ending a conversation also i speak differently to most people aswell.

That's correct. Not being able to reply without processing first would probably be categorized as atypical speech, rather than a speech delay.

I had a lot of speech and motor delays when I was little.

I'm diagnosed with Asperger's and I had a speech delay, as well as problems with conversations. I did pretend play growing up, and I didn't really take longer to take care of myself than others. One issue I had with language is that I had a difficult time pronouncing certain sounds, so I saw a speech therapist for many years. Even with those issues, I still didn't get diagnosed until I was an adult, as for my childhood, I was too "high functioning" for an autism diagnosis.

I did not have speech delay.
I do talk too much and too loud and tend to wear a subject out, dismaying the listener.
I played "lets pretend" a bit too much as a child, wrapping up my pets in bandages, making mud pies, pretending I was anyone but who I was.
As a child, I was rather uncoordinated, and a head taller than my peers, but I grew into my coordination about age 15.
I had no trouble learning in school, did little or no homework. In 9th grade, IQ was 164, per the California School system.
I had a number of social issues, i didn't fit in well, didn't know proper social protocol, ungraceful, unpoised, & poor self-esteem.
I had personal care issues in school, my mother dressed me and picked clothing and shoes, did my hair, etc. I was in 4th or 5th
grade before I could make right choices about clothes. High school was worse, mother still had say over clothing choice, lol. Still forget sometimes some part of hygiene routine and I'm 58, just doesn't seem important at the time.
Spend a lot of time "in my head".
Get hyper-focused easily.
Spent almost 40 years self-medicating with unconventional pharmaceuticals (drug addiction) Been clean 5 years now.
have 2 children and a grandchild also displaying characteristics of AS