Do you dislike being looked at?

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I can deal with people staring at me if they know me or fancy me. I have the man of my dreams fancying me back, and while he's sitting with me he smiles at me and kind of gazes, as if he's non-verbally telling me how beautiful he thinks I am. I take that as a compliment, and I like it.

But just random strangers in the street staring at me is just intimidating. It's OK if somebody gives me a smile, but just a prolonged stare that immediately turns into a glare when I instinctively sense they are staring and I look up at them, is quite daunting for me and I could do without it. Being in the street is hard enough as it is.

I've had this happen in supermarkets or waiting rooms. One Sunday I was shopping with my husband. I was wearing my most comfortable clothing and I spotted these two women dressed to the nines, with fake hair and false fingernails and high heels. They started snickering at me and staring as I walked by. I truly wanted to tell them both that they looked like a couple of raccoons but I ignored them.

Doesn't matter who it is... stranger or not, I hate being stared at for no reason. Happened yesterday when my mom stared at me for no reason with her mouth a bit open. Made me feel very uncomfortable and felt like she was probably thinking about something involving myself... of what, I will never know.

Ugh...

I would feel like saying to them "what are you staring at stare bears"

I hate it when people look at me for no reason. I've taught myself to force a smile when people do this; I figure if they smile back, they are friendly, right?

I really hate the feeling that people are looking at me. I get this every time I am in the street on my own. Especially when I'm walking and get passed by a bus etc.

I hate walking into a room and everyone looking at me. I also don't like it when I find my wife watching me. She does this often when sitting together watching TV.

I hate people staring at me. I'm a mobility cane user and tend to get really strange looks from older people. Young children aren't so bad. I was once at the eye infirmary and was stood behind a man who was carrying his young boy. The boy was facing at me and seemed to be staring at me. I wasn't that bothered - because he was facing me and there was really no other way for him to look.

I seem to either get dirty looks from older people, or looks of shock because I'm walking about on my own and have my cane with me. Like it's some sort of crime!

I've noticed that with children, it's more of a curiosity thing more than anything else.

Because of my fibromyalgia, I have often had to use a cane. And I used to get stares, challenging looks, and rude questions just because I wasn't old and gray haired!

I hate it when I'm standing at a crossing waiting to cross the road at a set of traffic lights, and a bus goes by with people in it. I don't make immediate eye contact with anyone in the passing bus, but I still get the feeling that they are all staring out the windows at me. Then when I'm in a bus myself and there's somebody in the street facing the bus waiting to cross the road, I look at the people in front of me to see if their heads are facing towards the person, and they are not, just looking forwards or down, and maybe just one person is staring out of the window. This then makes it look like it's personal when I feel I am being stared at when I'm in the street by people on a bus. But I never dare to proof that to myself by looking up at the people in the bus, so at least there's still a chance that it's my imagination. Sometimes ignorance is bliss.

Yep, that´s what I think, - but I refuse to be caught on photographs. At gatherings among friends, I am the one, who hurries away by the sight of a camera.

Tall with bushy, red facial hair. I'm used to staring.

The weird stare is when someone doesn't expect me to have a pony tail.

I dislike being stared at or looked at in general because I feel as though I'm being judged. It's as though they can see straight into me and see all my flaws and weaknesses, so that they know exactly what to say or do to upset or hurt me.

However I sometimes zone out and accidentally end up staring at someone, so I know it isn't always on purpose. Children do it a lot which I really dislike, but then I don't understand them either. Nearly always the children follow up the staring with an awkward question. At least they are honest about why they are staring I guess.

Nobody really stares at me, since there's really nothing different about me (I'm pretty much just your average-looking, short, brown-haired girl who doesn't dress weirdly in any way) but if they did, my reaction would depend on who it was. If it was a little kid staring in a "Look at THAT freak!" kind of way, I'd probably get annoyed, if it was an old guy I'd be disturbed, and if it was a cute guy I'd get all self-conscious and think "Oh no... he thinks I'm ugly". The only guys into me at the moment are younger, white gamer guys, and I hate all the attention they give me.

I'm the same, there's nothing really different about me, I'm just an average-sized female, (slim, 5 foot 5), and average-looking, (brownish-blonde hair, just past shoulder-length, nothing out of the ordinary), and I don't have an unusual gait either. My aunt even said that I hold myself up more confidently in public than I used to when I was younger (and she wasn't just saying that, I know she's always honest with me), and I can also hide my frustration if I get frustrated and just keep my cool. And I have a trendy handbag and I always wear clothes that make me look presentable. But I still get funny stares, and I've even had a few weird moments where I am sure I've had people laughing or whispering about me, and these were at random times in random places. I really don't know why people would do that, whether they had a problem with me or not (they must be extremely shallow because I know and have proven that I don't appear as freaky in any way, there are plenty of people out there who are noticeably far more weirder than me). I thought it was a social rule to never laugh at somebody and let them know because it can hurt someone's feelings. That's what I was always taught anyway, so if I've got to respect people's feelings then I expect them to do the same to me, especially when I'm not doing anything to encourage negative attention.

I do dislike being looked at, to this day. I'll catch my gf looking at me sometimes while driving and it drives me crazy. I'll look at her, look away, but it drives me crazy because I still feel her looking at me. I haven't run into this too much with strangers, but as a teen, I was always aware of people staring and it just made me very anxious.