How do you feel about people touching your 'stuff'?

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A bit.

For one thing, I am a bit worried about germs. I noticed most children and adults don't seem to think it necessary to wash their hands regularly. That's so disgusting.

I learnt to pay attention to that the hard way from working with kids – hands wet with salvia clutching at you, kids returning from the toilet without having washed their hands, unidentifiable smears of dirt and food on their faces burying into your arms and clothes lovingly...

wash hands regularly = stay healthy

The other thing is that I'm as all right with shaking hands as I am with people touching my things today

- which is to say that I tolerate it. And I know when to encourage it too to make a good social impression.

I'm fairly picky with my favourite stuff though. People touching some of my video games, some of my manga, some of my favourite pens... I don't like it at all.

My stuff is my stuff.

People touching it is as if it's not entirely mine anymore. By touching it it's as if they influenced it and changed it into something different. They most likely had at least one fleeting thought about it when touching it and their thought might be wrong to me/I don't like what they think.

I have MAJOR issues with that! I have to be polite and not say anything, but I feel it whenever somebody touches or picks up anything in our house. Even my wife knows I prefer that she not mess with any of my stuff, unless it's something she needs, etc. If someone needs a jacket, and I feel forced as a gentleman to offer mine, I don't want it back. And if you come near anything I'm eating or drinking, it's yours now .

Charles

I'm lucky I don't react the way a dog does when you reach for its food while it eats if anyone touches my stuff without permission. Of course my brother did this all the time when we were teenagers. Barging into my room, snickering at my toy collections, taking them from their shelves and not leaving when I ordered him to.

And the strange thing is I didn't get a lock for my bedroom door until my brother moved out, and then my aunt and my two cousins who were small at the time moved in with us.

I also get embarrassed if people I don't even know come into my apartment and go on about all the stuff I have or how large the apartment is. It makes me feel like I'm a selfish, spoiled brat who doesn't deserve any of it. A few times my landlord had people come in to inspect the apartment or something, and it's very uncomfortable until they leave.

Voted "Yes, a bit" as it depends on what is touched and who is touching it.

Some items I care little about (like coffeemugs or my shoes for example) and other things I get "on red alert" or "on 100% emergency standby" within a second (when someone either touches something that's very delicate or when I see they touch something and have no clue what they are doing and I see failure or damage about to happen...which is often because they don't always understand).

It does depend on what the item is, but no, I don't like it. And I've always thought it's rude and bad behavior to mess with other people's stuff, I even thought so as a little kid, so it amazes me when adults do and it doesn't impress me when they do.

I get upset when my mum puts things in my room without notifying me, and I'm kind of possessive of my books and they way things are in my room. I wash my hands a lot to avoid germs, and I don't like shaking hands.

So long as it's someone I'm comfortable with, their hands are clean, they tell me that they're going to touch it, they put it back exactly where was when finished, and they inform me of this so I'm made aware, then I'll tolerate people touching my stuff. Otherwise, they can eat dirt.

I don't like people touching my stuff. I don't like people coming in my house. I don't like people using my bathroom. Some things I'm more possessive of than others though. I really hate people touching my pillow or my phone.

I do get distressed when people touch my favorite things -- or things I consider to be fragile. There are things I own that I have no qualms if others touch.

As I think about it, I would prefer a world where "things" didn't exist (as "things" are simply yet another thing to worry about).

The way "stuff" is quoted in the title my first thought was not a PG-13 thought... That being said, I have no emotional attachment to any object I own, so it doesn't bother me. I don't like people losing or misplacing my "stuff" but I actually like to share.

It depends on what they're touching. I don't mind if people use my plates, cutlery, spices etc. that I leave in the communal areas, and I don't mind people touching my CDs/DVDs/books as long as nothing is lost, damaged or stolen.

If something IS lost, damaged or stolen, however, I'd expect an apology and a replacement - out of courtesy if nothing else. After all, I'd do the same if I were the guilty party.

It depends on the situation. I have no problem with people touching my stuff when I give them permission, but when they just touch or move my stuff around without said permission, it feels like an invasion of privacy. Same also goes for people coming in my room. My mom has a particularly bad habit of knocking on my door when I'm in my room and then barging in without even waiting for me to reply. I just feel like there's no respect for privacy or my replies (objective or not) and I feel really uncomfortable. I always have a feeling like she's going to barge in on me while I'm changing. Not a pleasant though, mind you.