NT girls and their not so engrossing talk!

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I didnt think my post would grab any serious attention. I was probably half asleep when I posted it. But I still stand by it making it clear that it was about most NT girls, not all. I know that there do exist NTs who are totally original in their speech and thought, it is another thing that they mostly dont find people like us cool enough to hang out with. I was presenting a very general opinion about NT girls but it sure does feel good to know that most of you feel the same.

I knew you meant MOST girls. I used to accidentally overgeneralise when I typed topics but not with the intention of offending anyone. I too have met interesting NT girls and guys.

Well, I feel kind of excluded now, because I like talking about boys and fashion!
I understand what you're saying when they do it excessively. It's annoying. I wish I could talk about my interests to them, but they just aren't interested... So yeah.

Also, if you're complaining about how they just sit around and gossip about other people... This thread is kind of doing that, too.

I thought it was just venting

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It's simple: when others say nasty things about you it's gossip when you (generic) do it it's venting

I think it really depends on which NTs you know. Where on the NT spectrum they are, and, related to that, the particular social group. None of my friends and acquaintances are like that. Not because those type of females aren't out there. Just that I they aren't usually amongst the people I meet in social situations.

It's not the topics necessarily that I can't relate to, as much as the way they discuss them. The last 2 weeks I have had to take my son to swimming lessons where I waited in a small area with several other moms. I brought a book to read, but found it almost impossible to concentrate due to their loud and irritating discussions. They go through their whole day in excruciating detail and repeat the same sentences over and over with different tones and inflictions. I don't know why they do that. Like, one day one was discussing buying a super expensive knife, but her husband said no. That should have been the entire conversation there, but I kid you not she went on about this one thing for over 5 minutes. It's not the topics that bother me as much as they don't ever seem to delve deep into any one topic, but just skim over them with the depth going no further than just a superficial way. There's no substance and they all agree, which seems important to them. They don't discuss anything really, is what I guess I'm trying to say. When I talk it's to share information and learn something. They do it for different social purposes that I don't get. I don't mind discussing relationships with other women, or what store has a better price in jeans that come in my size ect... but there had better be a purpose for the talking or I don't get why I'm talking in the first place.

And, no I don't feel superior to NT women. Just different. I don't have the need nor capacity to socialize with them on a regular basis the way they need to and I have come to accept that in my old age. It's not being bigoted to accept that we're different. I used to get quite a bit more irritated about it, but now I have learned that acceptance of differences leaves a lot more room for growth.

When I talk about Billy Idol my NT friends always say in a mean way, "why do u like him? He`s so old!" And sometimes people say he`s ugly!

So what if he`s old? I like older men! And he is far from ugly IMO. He looks good for a middle aged man!

This, totally. I think most people know better than to gossip around me, but they never, ever seem to shut up. It's like they are just talking to hear the sound of their own voices.

For me, it's not as bad when men do it. Women, on the other hand, often have very high pitched voices that cut right into me. That high squeal that they sometimes do should be legally coded as a weapon, no joke.

Well it's going to get fun when there comes more gamer girls to this world wince gaming is becoming more mainstream and gamer girls isn't so much about the plain NT talk.
The two gamer girls I have ever talked to was interested in science, history, art, music and games
They also enjoyed techno, rock and some metal.
Which is awesome!

When I talk to either aspie girls or gamer girls I feel like I can have an interesting stimualting conversation instead of the plaing NT talk

You have a point. The only relationships where I've been able to survive a month without hating the person, were with gamer girls.

I just worry that it's not the gaming that makes these women great, but being the type of girl who would defy convention and society that does it. So, as it becomes more mainstream, it won't make more great girls but will make it harder to separate the awesome from the average.

Pretty much. When I had 'mainstream'/'popular' friends I preferred to hang out with the guys (and got branded a slut for doing so Mmkay then...).

I'm so glad my friends now are a bunch of freaks! (Meant in the most loving way possible - I am too!)

You got a point

I always had a hard time relating to other girls. I didn't dislike them for it, but I did wish sometimes that I had more in common with their experiences. Whenever I DO find something in common with other women, it's always really surprising to me.

I find teenage girls annoying. I had a group of them sitting behind me on the bus the other day, and the way they talk got on my nerves, and it seems that 99.9 percent of teenage girls talk in this exact same way, and so girls in their 20s (except me and a few other girls of my age with other disabilities, and girls who are very, very mature and posh).

It seems that girls always say ''like'' after every other word, and they sound so excitable all the time, and something else weird I've noticed is when they're in a group it seems that they're all talking at once. You never hear one at a time talking, whereas when I hear people of any other age groups, only one person speaks at a time.

''I was like, oh my god! And then she was like, what? I'm like, I am so not telling ya! So she was like, why won't you tell me, slag!''
Doesn't that talk drive you insane????! !! !! !

I find it hard to relate to both girls and boys in my peer group. I don't find it hard to relate to older people. It seems like people my age are into clothes that I am not into, guys that I think are ugly and immature (I tend to found men out of high school more physically attractive than teenage boys in general), music that I don't listen to and movies that I probably not even allowed to watch. I'm not saying all NT teenagers are like this because they are not. I just have found it harder to make friends my age once I became a teenager.