Why do people dislike Aspies?

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Some people hear the word 'Aspie' or "Aspergers" and depending on what they know about it, they either love us or hate us. It could just be the label they are reacting to, not the person. Few seem to really understand what makes a person popular. A really obnoxious person can be very popular as long as they don't completely screw over the wrong people. They can be obnoxious as hell and still have many admireres. I've seen it. Whether they have an ASD or not, I couldn't tell you, but one thing they didn't do was tell people they had one.

This is where I don't believe in the trait ''Aspies lack understanding of putting themselves in other people's shoes'', because NTs are exactly the same with us. We find it hard to put ourselves in NT's shoes, just as much as NTs find it hard to put theirselves in Aspie's shoes.

Because I'm weird, boring and don't talk at all. Heck I don't know if I'm liked at all on here because of my extreme behaviors.

One thing I believe people don't like about me is that I like to share information. That's really all communication is about for me: uploading and downloading information. It can be info on anything, including feeling states. But I've watched NTs talk and they really are not bothered about the accuracy of what they are saying. I have seen an NT person who I know knows a certain fact, say something contrary to that fact when talking to another NT. Their communication is about...??? I'm not really sure, but transmitting accurate factual information is not that important. So when I present information, I think I come across as some kind of arrogant know-it-all. And I definitely do not know even one millionth of it all, but what I do know I like to share because it might be useful to the other person and that's how I share myself. But some NTs don't seem to appreciate this.

I noticed that Aspies are judged wrongly alot of times. People meet the Aspie, and then after a few minutes conclude all kinds of untrue things.

It's not that people dislike them, but rather, they become uncomfortable with their behaviours to the degree that they will avoid the person. People respond well to situations and behaviour that is very consistent with social norms. When someone is inconsistent from the way people normally behave, their reaction is one of unease and apprehension. They often don't know how to respond when someone is like this. People often become afraid of what they don't understand, and instead of learning about why the person behaves that way, they will jump to conclusions and assume that the person is acting this way on purpose or being belligerent, tactless or rude.

Things people bring up that they dislike about me:

-Monologues. I do this with a lot of things. Mass Effect, guns, cars, AS, Stargate and Star Trek just to name the big hitters.
-Word-usage. I correct people on their word usage all the time, apparently.
-Rocking/twitching/stimming. This apparently makes people uncomfortable. I don't care, though, because I'm not doing it for their benefit, and a lot of the time, I don't even realize I'm doing it.
-"Well actually". A new saying amongst the group I take company with is that one should "never fight an aspie on his obsession, for you will lose." According to a few people, a large but unspecified amount of my sentences start with "Well actually".

Where I live I do not see people not liking those of us with Asperger's anymore than certain people not liking anyone else.

I think we're hated mostly because we act differently. It doesn't help us to have our facial expressions, hand gestures, and movements in general seem weird to others.

They dislike us because our behavior gives them "weird thoughts" or "uncomfortable thoughts" because the way we think, speak, act, groom ourselves doesn't confirm to the NT world. In order to be accepted by NT society, we must all be actors trying to fake NT in order to avoid soliciting "uncomfortable thoughts" from the NT population. It sucks but its reality.

The NT population can give off scary vibes.

I think people don't like me because:
I have stopped doing things for them
It just seems like too much BS to do much of the idiotic socializing/gossiping thing
When people say something that is really wrong, I react, even if I don't say anything, it shows on my face
I care more about being an individual than one of the pack (IMO the biggest thing about me that bugs people)
I have always been really curious and interested in learning, so go in depth about things that many others just learn enough of to get by
(like cooking, maps, collecting all kinds of things, music etc etc)

The biggest reason is there aren't many people I meet that I like!! !! ! I keep realizing just how much of an effort I have to put in to stand being around most people (all people really) and that I resent putting all that effort into something I don't care that much about just because I was trying to get along.

Maybe, someday (I doubt it though) I will meet people who don't seem petty, gossipy, whiny, looking to see what they can get, more interested in feeding their own egos etc

Dang I am pissy aren't I?!?