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I've not voted. I don't think my parents were "bad" just a bit ignorant.

Both of my parents have passed away. My mother was so NT. She was and still is thought of as one of the most friendly of people. Strangers would stop and talk to her about all sorts of issues as though they had known her for years. She never had a bad bone in her body. My father was probably on the spectrum. We are alike in many ways. He was a very quiet person and didn't have much time for us but he always did his best for the family and we all knew that he loved us. He was so lonely after my mother died. He virtually locked himself away. He only lasted another two years before cancer took him. He never knew what AS was nor that he and I were affected. I miss them both.

My parents were good to me but then there's no such thing as a perfect parent.

I felt that they couldn't handle my issues and didn't know what to do.

So, the point of this poll is...?

Anyways, I had an abusive father when I was growing up. When I told my psychologist of what happened and the aftermath of the experiences [i.e. how I would respond to people and the environment], she dxed with PTSD. With a lot of therapy, I've been able to move on from my experiences. Lately, we've been able to establish some sort of relationship again, although I doubt I would ever be close to him.

I have no issues with my mum.

Well, if you want to learn about someone, learning about their parents is a good way to do it. I was thinking of doing a parent-related poll myself (once I figure out how).

My mother's okay. She's an artist, interested in history, and usually quite nice if she's got a new project/house/relationship to work on, or when she's medicated. She wears make-up and handmade jewellery, is proud of being all hip and artsy and stuff. My one full sister takes after her. She yelled at us a lot when we were growing up, and she occasionally smashed things and threatened to abandon us. I think this bothered my sister, but I didn't mind. We mostly lived with out mother when our parents divorced when I was six. We were probably abused and neglected. I never let anybody hurt me, and went and hid and lived most of my childhood in my own world, and was happy. But my sister is very mixed up even now.

My father, according to my friends who've met him, is really weird. He's a skinny little man with a ponytail and glasses, always wears the same kinds of clothes - and can be really quiet, awkward, or innapropriate, unless he's doing his actor thing (he's a historical interpreter at Colonial Williamsburg, playing James Madison, among other characters). He has a genius IQ and studied music theory, and writes symphonies and stuff, sometimes on napkins. He also goes through obsessive phases. Ancient Egypt is one topic of interest in which our phases coincided for a few years, but he's also gone through "Punch and Judy" puppet shows, and PVC pipes. He made himself a PVC pipe flute in one of the fits of craftiness he has every now and then. He can play any instrument he picks up, and knows more songs than I do (a whole lot). I take after him (even in things like food preferences, which I didn't learn till I moved to his house a few years ago), and he's really easy to get along with.

Our conversations go like this:
Me: Hi, Daddy.
My father: Did I ever tell you about The Golden Bough/Sawney Bean/shape note singing?
Me: Yes.
My father: Well, I was at the research library last week, and I read a fascinating first-person account of this one blah blah blah...

When I told him I was gay, he told me he was a Jabberwock, and asked me to listen to his newest fugue. I'm not making this up. I kind of want to write a book with my father as a character, but I'm afraid he would just sound too unrealistic

Well my dad has Schizophrenia and tried to kill my mum - so yeah hes not that good - though thats all what others have said as i have never met him. My mum, i think she tried her best i know i didnt make it easy not that was intentional or anything but several brothers and sisters and me. Of course getting diganosed with several different things when i was younger didnt help and maybe if i was diagnosed with Autism then maybe things would have been different, but who knows

The worry for me is my mum says that i am alot like my dad and that when i had my anger "issues" when i was younger she thought i was alot like him