Complainers

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If the complainer is seeking advice and actually considers applying some of it, then I'll pitch in and try to help.

But if the complaint is made merely to express emotions, then it seems pointless - especially when it's the same people with the same complaints time and time again. After a few days and as many new threads on the same topics by the same people, and after they've rejected all reasonable solutions to their problems, I have to wonder if their complaints are really no more than a bid for attention - a sort of "Reverse Trolling".

Instead of "You're all stoopid! BUHUWAWAWAWAH!", it's "I'm so stoopid, WAAAAAAAAAAAAAAH!"; the person still gets attention, but they don't get banned.

Does anyone else see what I mean? It's like two sides of the same coin.

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some folk are so overwhelmed by their troubles that they just can't see any sense anywhere. they are like infants who can't articulate what's troubling them so they just wail out of sheer existential pain. i want my chill pill. medicate me.

Expressing emotions can be therapeutic simply on it's own.

I agree that if they get some good advice they should try it out, but whether they view it as good advice or whether it's as easy to implement as it sounds is hard to say.

What bothers me worse than complainers is people who never tell you what's bothering them, and act all grumpy anyway. They expect you to read their mind about what's upsetting them.

'What's wrong?'
'You KNOW what's wrong'.
'Err, actually I don't'.
' ! !! !! !! YES YOU DO!'

Complainers don't bother me if they have something valid to complain about and they usually do. It's the naggers that just want to nag at you and who are constantly negative about everything all the time. Nothing you do is ever right or good enough for them, they feel they have to constantly criticize you and everything about you. They drain me mentally, emotionally and physically. I cannot be around them for any length of time because they stress me out and make me ill. My first husband was like that and I don't regret not having to live with him and all of that, for one moment. Unfortunately our daughter has adopted his negative nagging ways. So she's difficult to live with and to be around for anything length of time too.

Last winter, we had a really heavy fall of snow, unexpectedly. We had a major traffic chaos and many people had to walk home from work. Things were almost at a standstill for several days. Anyway, my husband and went out into our cul-de-sac and started to clear the compacted snow into piles. Any of the neighbours who weren't at work came out to help. There was a real community spirit going on and I made tea for everyone. One of the neighbours came out and said, 'The council should be doing this, this is ridiculous'. I just thought, it's taken us a whole day to do this one little bit of road, how on earth could the council manage to make an impact. Some people.