What psychological affect do you have on people?

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Most people become comfortable around me (although I'm often stressed), I don't seem to have an effect on some people, and a few people become uncomfortable around me. People tend to trust me easily and my friends usually come to me if they need someone to comfort them.

They usually suddenly remember that they are late for a prior engagement elsewhere.

Since I have the rare gift of invisibility, I have no effect at all that I know of. I would be SO flattered if I were told that my presence felt peaceful and uplifting. But instead I think I'm more like a paperweight. Or a weird statue that can somehow move around.

Usually, I'm invisible. Otherwise, I'm someone who should be protected.

I sometimes wonder if I annoy people tremendously when I am revealing all of my true thoughts and feelings and not hiding enough of them, because I don't know what I should be revealing and what I should be hiding, whether in general or when dealing with a specific person. This paranoia becomes more major the more I think about it, so I try not to think about it. But I wish I knew if I annoyed people a lot and if so, how and why exactly, and whether people find me super annoying or maybe even rage-inducing. No one else reveals their true thoughts and feelings in ways that I can understand, so I am truly in the dark about the psychological effects I have on people.

A non-aspie, but:

It's varied, as anybody else, I guess.

-A fondness of me with familiar folks around.

The effect that is mirrored is a seriousness. Most of the time I'm serious. This is countenanced back. Nothing noteworthy here.

Fidgety. I scratch my scalp, and my wife calls this "nervous habits." I'm just edgy here, I feel the need to move. This mirrors back into my wife & one daughter for some reason-- they scratch and say my bugs are biting them .
I know I spook some women, though. A distance that I can read, a discomfort in body language. I think they're just chicken.

The negative I've heard with enough frequency is: "You're hard to read."
When younger in my 20's, someone told me I make people nervous by standing aloof.

All in all, I don't seem to have severe trouble with this, as in the other posters here.

I don't know.

I am NT but my husband and 2 children are Aspies as is my nephew. I have alot of contact with Aspie kids/teens because I run an ASD gamers group. I find it psychologically easier to be around Aspies than I do NT's. Dealing with facts, honesty and being talked to about something more important/interesting than the trivial crap that some NTs drivvle is refreshing for my soul.

As a person I tend to invoke productivity in others. I am very much a skip the drama and theatrics and move to the solution type person and it tends to spread to those around me.