Why do Psychiatrists and Psychologists only ask questions?

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They ask personal questions so that they can give you the proper help. How are they supposed to know how to help you, if they don't ask those questions? I went to see a psychiatrist years ago and she failed to ask me such questions and she tried to give me generic help and that help didn't work for me because they didn't have all the correct answers due to the fact that they never asked the questions. Another thing is that all that they saw was autism and they were wondering if everything that I did was due to my autism. I'm not seeing anybody right now because I'm under the impression that the same thing will happen again and my local office won't take me in, because I'm attractive. In order to get the right help, you need to be honest with your answers.

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(that is not meant to be racist (for all the hair trigger protestants that may start howling))

From reading what you've said, I can think of several possible interpretations for what might be going on:

Interpretation #1: You tend to cope by avoiding your problems and hoping they'll go away. This is not an effective strategy and psychologists know it, so when faced with a patient like that, they tend to encourage them to talk about their problems. The natural reaction for the patient is to get very uncomfortable with this, because it goes against your long-established coping style, but if you can push past the discomfort (or better yet, talk about the discomfort!) you can make a great deal of progress.

Interpretation #2: You are seeing a therapist for AS-related issues and the therapist is trying to use emotion-focused ways to treat them. This is like trying to treat a sore knee by bandaging your ankle. Standard talk therapy is quite effective for issues like depression and anxiety, and can be helpful for an AS person who has such issues, but it is completely ineffective at things like learning social skills or improving executive functions or reducing sensory issues. You need social skills training and occupational therapy for stuff like that, not talk therapy.

Interpretation #3: You don't tend to link up words and emotions the way most people do. In my case, when I think something like 'everyone hates me', this thought does not make me more upset, and countering it with examples of all the people who like me won't make me feel better. The thought just expresses an emotion, but has no power to affect it. If you're like that, then talk therapy won't be very effective. Look into art therapy or something instead.

The NT-AS communication mismatch happens a lot in the headshrinker place:

Question They Speak =/= Question You Hear ---> Answer You Speak =/= Answer They Hear
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Next Question They Speak, etc.

i felt to intelligent to get treated by a psychiatrist.. they forced me to go to one cause i didn't wanna go to school anymore but i just thought they were stupid and ignorant.., i saw through all their tactics

ETA: Yikes, didn't realize how old this thread was, as it appeared on the first page.

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OP, why are you in therapy at all and why are you seeing this guy specifically? You have open disdain for all the psychs you've seen (they've all "sucked") and you say the current therapist is ugly, can't get a woman, etc. It sounds to me as if you want a dating coach, not a therapist.

If what you want out of therapy is to get women, you're probably not going to be getting much out of therapy. I doubt any given therapist's front agenda is to get his patients laid. Rather, it's to get them in a better mental/emotional place overall.

BTW, you don't know that the "ugly" therapist isn't getting dates left, right and center. You know he's not married. Some people are not married because they're divorced. Some people aren't married because they just don't want to be married. This dude may be amazing with women for all you know. Unless he's starting out all of your therapy sessions with, "So, how was your week? Mine was terrible because unfortunately, I didn't get laid again" which would be entirely inappropriate and which I doubt, you really don't know. Some very, very unfortunate-looking guys get the girls, because they just have that way...they might be funny...they might be sexy...you really don't know.

But above and beyond that, if you're choosing a therapist based on whether or not he has a lot of girlfriends and/or is married, nope, therapy isn't going to work out for you.

BTW, you start out this thread complaining that your psych asks you about your past. You soon follow that up by complaining that he asks about your present. So if he's not allowed to ask about your past or your present...honestly, WTH CAN he ask you about? Your future? That would be tough as you don't know what your future will be and neither does he.

The old psychologist trick grinds my metaphorical gears.

It usually occurs when you ask them a question and they answer with yet another question.

One of the reasons why they ask questions is so they can rule things out like they might ask very personal questions like if you were abused or badly bullied, how was your childhood, if you were ever raped so they can rule out PTSD. That is how they figure out what is causing your problems, they want to know if it's environmental factors or neurological.

Also annoying thing about them is when you ask them a question, they won;t answer it directly but instead they try and make you explore the question and think because they want you to make progress and get better at it. For example I asked him about a facial expression on his face and instead of telling me directly, he wanted me to think about the possibility why he had that look and what it meant and what we were just talking about. I think he wanted to improve my facial expression interpretation.

EDIT: Aw crap I just realized this is an old thread and I saw my response on the first page and it was very similar to what i just wrote.

Also i saw this by the OP: