Do you like NTs more than Aspies?

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I honestly kind of do. All of my friends are NT. I think the reason is because of how Aspie people are different or encourage people to be different but NT people all want to be the same and do the same thing supposively and I want to fit in so I try and do the same thing as everyone else. I haven't met one Aspie who wants to do the same thing I do or even enough to try it. however most of the stuff I like doing NT people do.

While I'd never decide whether I like someone or not based on his neurology I have known more NTs that I've liked than I have Aspies. I've known lots of Aspies. I was in a school with a program for Aspies and there were tons of others. It was exhausting to interact with them. I just didn't feel good with them. Some were too naïve and went on and on about incredible things they believed while everyone else knew these things weren't true. Thomas was too insensitive and teased the hell out of me. Nicole was always complaining about every little thing in her life. John was one of the naïve ones. Edward was a nice guy. The only thing that made interaction with him difficult was his stuttering. I stutter a bit and I know he can't help it but he had it to an extent that forced me to strain my ears to listen to him. It was unfortunate because he didn't have any of the personality problems that the others had. Daniel Williams wasn't as bad as Thomas but had the same issue with insensitivity. Norbert was just a goofball in an annoying way.

The handful of NT friends that I do have right now are easier to get along with. I have known some pretty nasty NTs as well so I'm not going to like someone just for being NT but I have had the best experiences with NTs and a couple of people who I suspect had mild learning disabilities other than Autism. Aspies have never been my best friends.

Relationships primarily succeed for me when they are either (1) structured shared interests (such as musical partners) or (2) one-on-one (this often leads me into romantic involvements). I lucked out early in life when I achieved both 1 & 2 at the age of 19. Been in a long dry spell lately.

NT friends are better IMO as long as they're nice and understanding. I've always wanted to feel like I'm part of a group, and most of the other Aspies I know are "lone wolves". Or there are personality clashes, so I definitely prefer NT friends (though my best friend is the exception, since our personalities don't clash).

I don't like anyone other than a rare few.

NT, AS, cows; they're all the same.

I don't like NTs more than people with AS.

Nor I like people with AS more than NTs.

They're just the same for me.

I don't think that people with Asperger's are better than NTs, nor I think that NTs are better than people with Asperger's.

I value other Aspies for their depth of thought into subjects and their attention to detail. It's what I do best too but I was married to an Aspie and now I'm in a relationship with an NT. I'm much happier with the NT. When I was with the Aspie I felt lonely. We couldn't bridge the gap to connect, we were essentially roommates. With the NT I need to make extra effort but we connect. I'm pretty sure we'll be together until one of us kicks the bucket. I think what's good about being with an NT is the NT will get the Aspie out of the house and doing stuff they wouldn't do of their own volition. I'm still not 100% used to the spontaneity but I've learned to turn the porch light on whenever we go out because there's no telling when we'll get home.

I think I'd get along best with NTs who are intelligent (i.e. like to discuss), sensitive, and have some milder aspie traits. I feel like I'm too selfish to attempt to relate to another aspie who isn't super high functioning. Otherwise they can't make up for my shortcomings (help keep the conversation going, make interacting with body language easier, help me come out of my shell, not talk so much I can't get a word in, etc...). I just feel too awkward in person with a lot of other aspies and then feel crappy for not being able to try harder to be their friend. I think I get along best with people who somehow come off as being just slightly aspie, even less aspie than me. I also get along better with people who aren't quite as introverted as me. They motivate me more.

Like many people with undiagnosed Aspergers I never had either Aspie or autistic friends. Now I actively seek to associate with people on the spectrum but find that I don't share their specific obsessions/special interests. I also find communicating with them a challenge; yet I see glimmer of what people would say about me when I was younger and (ironically) helps explain why I never pursued friendships despite having no problem making friends.

For those of us on the edge of the spectrum making friends with fellow autistics requires proactive action on our part.

I aspire to successful, confident NTs, but I could never get along with them. I like Aspies, although it's often hard to accept because sometimes I think that if I were exposed to the charisma and positiveness of NTs, I would become more like that and less of an anxious wreck. It probably wouldn't work in reality, though.

NTs are fine one-on-one, but become boring in groups.