My son is seeing things! Please HELP!

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You could get his eyesight tested, just in case it is related to bad eyesight.

He could also just have a vivid imagination.

On another note, some religions believe that children can see things that adults can't (like angels and demons).

I read the original post, and skimmed the rest (excuse my hurry this morning).

I'd first guess that it's a garden variety childhood phobia, and not based on anything physical in the house (not based on something he saw which was scary at one time, and is afraid of it's return). As a toddler and little kid, I had a terrible fear of vent fans (as in bathrooms and kitchens). No idea why, and yet I can feel the intense terror today as a 44 year-old bodybuilder who is afraid of virtually nothing else. I feel silly even admitting it, but it's true. It could of course be that he did see something, which he perceived as a danger of some sort, and I don't know how to figure that out 'til he's old enough to explain. Meantime, I'd suggest comforting him by accepting and supporting him in realizing the fear, and don't try to tell him it's fake, or certainly don't say he's imagining it. As far as he knows, he's not imagining it, and you'd just be telling him you don't believe him by that. I understand he's not able at that age and under these circumstances to discuss it, so it's all in how you act about the fear.

If it turns out to be ghosts he fears, maybe get him a DVD with a season or two of The Ghost and Mrs. Muir (TV comedy from the 1960s with Edward Mulhare and Hope Lange). That will allay any fear of ghosts, if he's anything like I am. If it's spiders, mice, etc., teach him as early as possible about the life & habits of those creatures. Trying to convince him that there are no such things as ghosts, or that pests can't get in the bedroom, will only make his fear worse since he thinks he felt, saw, or heard (or actually did encounter) something. One thing I can say that's absolutely true for me and for most other high-functioning autistics I know, is that knowledge and understanding is a must in all cases of worry or fear. I cannot go to sleep if there's something I don't understand. Particularly with mechanical or technical things. I have to know exactly how and why something is the way it is!

Sadly of course, I need to mention that in rare cases, there will have been someone in the house (friend, relative or foe), who may have done something to the boy; upstairs. God forbid, but it must be considered when looking at the big picture as a third party.

I hope some of this helps, and I wish you and the boy success in conquering the bedroom fear...

Charles

Sorry guys for not getting back to you as it has been a rough couple days now. I do appreciate everyone's concern and all your answers are really a great support system for me.

Here is some news...

Pittsburgh Paranormal Society (http://www.pittsburghparanormalsociety.com) came out tonight, they where here from 7pm to 1130pm. They did find evidence of "someone" being here. The meters where lighting up when questions where being asked. They had EVP going on, cameras in the rooms, etc. We will get the rest of the evidence this week if anything was found. But what we go so far that there was a teenage boy here or little and older lady, grandmother type. They feel as if the Grandmother or older lady is looking over my son to make sure he is alright and nothing happens to him. That this "lady" is almost attached to him as a protector. Also, that my son has a "gift" and that he is a vessel and they he will always see these things as he gets older. He just has to learn how to deal with them but right hes to young to understand which is why is he so scared. I wasn't here for the investigation, my mother and I took my son to my aunts to get him out of the house while they worked. My girlfriend and my father stayed back at the house to participate.

What my girlfriend and father told me is pretty crazy and I'm at a loss for words right now. I didn't want to believe this but I kind of expected for this to happen. My father is the type of person where he has to see something to believe it, he isn't easily rattled at all. But when I got home I could tell that this changed him mind about a lot of things. I mean these "things" where responded to actual questions. It was pretty overwhelming what I was told.

In the end, the main guy did a "cleansing" I guess you could call it. He the had the spirits go to the light, at one point he said we could do this the hard way or easy way but you will be leaving this house tonight. They answered to do it the easy way, all the lights lit up for that response. They where getting overwhelming responses. Shawn said he put a protective "bubble" over our house. He said all we can do now is try and understand what is going on, get rid of the negative energy, stop fighting. Myself and my family have been going through a rough time, a lot of fighting, yelling, etc. Shawn and his crew could see that as soon as they stepped in, it was crazy. They new my girlfriend and I constantly fight.

So I guess now I will try and get a priest to bless the house and see if they have any support or answers. I just really dont know where to go from here. I'm still wondering if I should take my son to the doctors, whether its a child psychiatrist or what not?

I really do not know what do, this is pretty hard to grasp right now. Just very worried about my son, I'm upset, angry....

At the age of two your child is still, pretty much, a baby. Have you considered allowing him to sleep in your bed with you? There's not much reason, really, for a two-year-old to be independent of his parents when it comes to sleeping.

Im not a parent but as a child I was absolutely terrified of some unnamed monster.

I would be very wary of taking too seriously claims that your house is haunted.....I mean , they would say that wouldnt they!! !


My suggestion..(and the only thing that worked for me as a child) is...if its at all possible....get a dog for your son. Seriously, as a child I found it so comforting to have my friend (Socks) sleep with me or next to me. And I would look to him to see if there was any thing scary and if he was fast asleep I figured it was alright. A lot of autistic children find animals very comforting, you could maybe save a nice quiet old dog from a rescue shelter and let your son pick it out so he has a bond with it. I know my advice is a bit different to everyone elses here but I was an autistic child with a terror of the dark and thats the only thing that helped me.

Okay, Mr. Dad Guy, you need to calm down. Are you a young parent? I wonn't judge you for it if you are, but this may make it harder for you to remain level-headed in these types of situations. If you are a young parent, remember that your brain isn't fully mature yet, so watching Ghost Hunters may not only be damaging for your son, but you as well since when immature brains see something, even if it's on TV, they internalize it as though it were real. This may make you a little biased when it comes to the paranormal.

I would take these paranormal findings with about 20,000 tons of salt since the people who conducted the study are probably biased, but there is still a small possibility that there is something in your house.

Regardless of anything paranormal, you need to tell your child's doctors about this. He may have serious problems that cause hallucinations, as others have suggested. Your first reaction should have been to call the doctors, not the Paranormal Society. The Paranormal Society should be a last resort.

As a person who is helping raise a young child, I think that your son seems really advanced. He knows all his ABCs? Can he recognize them on his own? My mom says my Neurotypical brother (the young child I'm helping raise) is a genius, but he didn't have his ABCs memorized until he was probably about 3.5. This shows that you don't need to worry so much.

Also, I understand your concerns about your son having a normal life, but they are misplaced. Your son will always be autistic, but as a person on the Autism Spectrum, I can tell you that this is not a bad thing at all. I don't need to live a normal life; I'm perfectly happy with skipping a grade, publishing a book at age twelve, going to college (and taking honors classes) a year early, helping raise a beautiful child, and rising above my struggles. Autism will not destroy your child's life. Even completely nonverbal autistic people are able to make great contributions to the world, and I hope this will show you that it is your society that considers the different ways of thinking that come with autism to be a disability, and that your society is not the final arbiter of what is and isn't DISability:

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=JnylM1hI2jc

Your child will have his struggles, and at times autism does make things harder, but remember this: many experts say that High Functioning Autism Spectrum Disorders are responsible for most of today's technology. There are a lot of great thinkers who are now considered to have had Autism Spectrum Disorders, such as Charles Darwin, Lewis Carroll, Jonothan Swift, Motzart, Isaac Newton, Albert Einstein, and Gregor Mendel. As long as you do everything you can to raise your child into a great person, including pushing him out of his comfort zone at times but not pushing him too far, you've got nothing to worry about.

*awkward Aspie hug*

*wipes off weird touch feeling*

*smells backpack*