Do people with Asperger get angry easily?

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YES to the remarks in bold. While I adore explaining things to people that they may not know, if I feel like it's something they SHOULD know, I absolutely loathe having to explain it. It irritates me to the point of anger. If I explain my reasoning for something and the person doesn't understand me, I get mad. I'm even guilty of yelling, "well, you must be really stupid!" to my poor boyfriend on an occasion or two, but that's typically when the explanation is surrounding a very tense/emotional argument.

I punched a kid once, in elementary school. People made fun of my complicated to pronounce last name often, usually coming up with nicknames like Chopsticks and such, and one boy was being relentless with the jokes on the school bus one day. I got angry, and wanted to hit him, so I actually asked the bus driver if it was ok if I punched him. She responded: "not on my time." Well, my pint-sized aspie brain took this as permission, seeing as socking another kid in the face certainly wouldn't take up any of her time. Ooops. I was kicked off of the bus for a couple of weeks.

I DO get angry when I get one of the following rebukes from people - sometimes outwardly, sometimes inwardly (the latter if it means that I want to keep my job..)

1) When someone says to my AS declaration: "Well, that's not an excuse, you just have to try harder."

2) The opposite of above: they say, "well, I think you just need to not try so hard and over-analyze things, you're making things more complicated for yourself than they need to be - just go with the flow and what makes sense."

It gets me pissed off b/c it shows they're not willing to learn about Aspergers. They just want to judge, and my patience on being judged has long since worn thin.

I became extremely angry for the slightest agitation when I was younger.

Now I have the opposite problem. I have a problem getting angry despite what people do.

I had outburst earlier even my mom, dad and brother as same problems

But once i started doing meditation i calmed down and now the outburst have reduced

Last night I got reminded of how easy it is to get angry when someone talks while I'm trying to listen to something else. I watch the Superbowl for the ads, mostly, and someone was talking during them. Also, she made negative comments during the halftime show and then started whistling and singing along with the song. I dealt with it by going to another room to watch the game. It's the first time I've had to watch alone in - oh, I'm not sure if I've ever watched it entirely alone. But it was better than risking that I might say something I'd regret.

That's exactly me. I don't feel angry/mad about a lot of things, but I easily get frustrated and I get really loud, which sometimes I don't realize that I get loud.

Anyways, I find myself getting frustrated with my mom a lot. But it's kinda hard, coz she and I are the same person in that we both get "mad" so fast, that we don't really talk in fear of upsetting the other person.

No!! We don't get angry easily!! Stop pissing us off!! (oh, the irony in this post )

I don't get angry easily, if I show it im FURIOUS.

problem with controlling anger is an aspie trait and i have rage attacks myself. being accused of being rigid and distant - aspie. getting mad at advices given without being asked, i don't know about that. could be aspie, though.
sometimes i get so angry i see a red fog and don't remember what i did later, and turned out i hurt people. you get angry easily isn't so bad, considering.

I usually have exceptional control over my anger. I often don't value the person's moral intergrity, honesty or intelligence enough to let their intentional or unintentional BS bother me, or to even give them my time.

Two things that occur that still cause me to lose control over my anger/visible stress are what I will call "blame without reason/being a mindreader" and "misrepresentation".

For example: A lazy, stoned, hungover, sleep deprived, overworked, spoiled brat, power monger or just plain average to unintelligent supervisor/boss gives a half-assed description of a simple job that, after I verbally dig and dig for a better understanding of the tasks involved, finally seems clear to me.

After the job is completed in the best way I see fit as per the description, I am criticized for not delivering what the boss had in mind. In actuality, I am being criticized for not reading the boss' mind; I have allegedly not followed some crucial detail he/she left out but is too tired/stoned/whatever to remember that it wasn't mentioned in the first place. Sometimes there will be a misinterpretation of a crucial detail, the result of the misuse of a word or phrase by the boss, leading me to a different understanding, or the failure by the boss to express him/herself clearly enough to rule out possible misinterpretations. I am then blamed for not completing a task satisfactorily. This often leads to misrepresentation of my abilities or intelligence, as the task is most likely something that I am overqualified for.

These also continue to irk me-

being given advice without asking for it

people treating me like a medical experiment, vocally trying to guess at why I think/behave the way you do (I haven't told my family/friends about AS yet and most aren't familiar with the term)

people trying to take advantage of my special interests/systemizing skills

people trying to take advantage of my honesty

people telling me to relax, don't get stressed, especially when you sense they are enjoying it

phrases like "smile!" and "why do you look so serious?"

people mistaking social anxiety and lack of eye contact/interest for lack of confidence

WOW, this a long reply. I'm still obviously a little angry!

I get angry. I think it's because of the frustration of never being fully understood. I think it's because I was never diagnosed and as a child I was not in an environment that recognized my needs. I was always frustrated and angry because of it. I was always teased for being clumsy, talking proper, not getting jokes. I'm so smart, but people thought I was stupid until they saw my test scores. I guess that shaped my personality.

When expected to behave (or near children), I can deal with being yelled at or poked for an hour or more. But as soon as I get home I have to blow off steam or risk nuclear detonation. So yes, I anger easily, but I can suppress it for HOURS.

I easily get angry, I can't control it. I completely lost it with my mom when she stop taking her medication, we were fighting soooo much, it get to the point when I don't want to see my mom anymore, after I moved out, we slowly made up. I wish I could of control my anger, my angry can get the worst of me, I become a different person, a person that is very mean. Now my older sister can easily get me too angry, so angry, that she can upset me so much & make me cry. I wish I can stop talking to her.

Why shouldn't we? We have spent our lives being bullied, labeled, judged, insulted, harassed and abused by others. We have been treated badly by family members, teachers, doctors and other people we once thought we could trust and depend on. People treat us as if we're all serial killers, force us to act "normal", and think we have a terrible disease that must be cured. Every fall we have to put up with the anti-vaxxers, and every April we have to put up with A$ and other so called "advocates".

Why shouldn't that make us angry? I think it's perfectly our right to be.

Objectively speaking, I can agree with this, but pragmatically, not so much. I'd probably be in jail for a spell if I'd acted on my angry urges against those who'd wronged me in the past, but I managed to turn my life into a successful one with a few hedonistic pursuits. You have to maintain composure when in the working world, as much as it'd be satisfying to punch a bully boss in the face for insulting or belittling you based on your symptoms, you'd get a heck of a lot more than a 2-day suspension like back when you were 13.

Trouble is, because of the Fundamental Attribution Error (google that if need be), if we have an overly angry reaction to peers and such pushing our buttons, they tend to ask and assume "why haven't you been fired by now?" - because they think it's your default mode. Or worse, they attribute your Aspergers - and not your treatment thereupon - as being the root cause of your anger like you're some unhinged nutjob. In fact, my (step-)parents heavy-handed treatment of me could ostensibly be traced to wishing my survival in the working world. I doubt they'd relish the thought of me continuing to sleep on their basement couch in my 30s. C'est la vie...and it ain't always fair. I suggest doing what I did, let loose on a punching bag in the gym and even put so-and-so's stupid face on it if need be perfectly legal and reduces anger!