What grades in school were the hardest socially?

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It started to get hard around 4th grade. By 6th grade, I had no friends of my own age. That is how bad my social skills were and they really showed because I got older and so did they so they grew up faster than I. Though I did befriend a girl with Down's syndrome when I was 12 when my mother and her mother hooked us up, then when I was 13 and 14, I befriended another girl my age who was a year and a half younger than me. She was an outcast and had no friends. She looked like an adult too even though she was a kid. Then she moved. It was so nice finding a girl my age who still played with toys and wasn't a typical preteen.

I would say high school was the hardest.

6th grade was the worst socially. Also the worst mentally. It's when my OCD became full-blown/severe. My AS was probably the most severe this year, too. I was teased up until 8th grade, though. 2nd grade was when I was teased mercilessly by this little brat in my class, but I had zero friends in 6th grade. Not that I cared, but still.

For me kindergarten was the hardest because I didn't play with other kids. I was always happy when I got sick because I could stay home then. Grade one was hard as well, but it got better and better. I had loads of homework and lots of other activities. I was so busy there's no time to play much anyway, so the fact that I didn't like playing was easily covered up.

I am grateful that I grew up in a place with lots of people like me, so finding a friend was never difficult. I was obviously awkward as any time I tried to make friends with someone it never worked, but I always seem to draw some people naturally anyway.

I vote most of them. I was very, very bad at all things sport and that set me apart early. I tried so hard to do my best, but it still made me a joke. I just did not have the physical strength or coordination. Even some adults weren't very sympathetic. I remember in a very early year trying to leap frog over an upright log and not being able to figure it out. The supervisor (a teacher or volunteer parent, I'm not sure which) accused me of not trying hard enough. Since that couldn't have been further from the truth, I gave her a surprised look and burst into tears. Little hurts like this happened all the time.

Then in year 5 I was badly bullied. It went on for months because I didn't know what to do about it. I was never again bullied as badly as I was then, but I was picked on most of the way through the rest of my school years.

High school (years 7 to 12) was intense. As others have mentioned, it's when your hormones kick in and your physical appearance changes rapidly. I found a social group in year 7, but was excluded from it by year 8. After that I began hanging out with the more "fringe" people. In years 8 and 9 I found a group of guys who accepted me as one of their own - for a time. I was happy there until my presence began to cause friction. I got pretty depressed in the middle of my high school years. While I wasn't officially diagnosed at the time, I have been since and now recognise what I was experiencing.

I can't quite recall what happened after that, but in years 11 and 12 I do remember alternating between a group of Asian students and a group of the "less cool" students, who, by and large, were guys - the same ones I hung out with in years 8 and 9.

I rarely felt comfortable with Australian-born girls. Many of my friends throughout my school years, starting from around year 3, were from different cultural backgrounds and often didn't speak English as their first language. I guess we both had communication issues.

For me it was lower high-school. Mainly because you then have to attend a whole different school, with new people. In high-school people try to be as grown-up as they can. The group dynamic and rules aren't that clear as in jr.high (where everybody tries to be cool, but basically are still kids and watch cartoons in secret). In high-school people started going to cafés for lunch, going for coffee, and went to parties as if they had done this for many years. I found it hard to join them in these activities.

Middle school.

For me, it was the middle grades up to the 7th grade as my family moved in the summer of that year so I got to go to a new middle school in the 8th grade. Probably the 6th and 7th grades were the worst of those years, mostly because Guess jeans were the major fad, and my parents couldn't afford to get those for me as they were likely saving up to buy the house we moved to at the end of the 7th grade year. At the new middle school, the kids were more accepting, plus a year later, I was in high school and was able to be friends with the other band geeks. The only people who hated me were the slackers in my mom's English class at another middle school since she only gave passing grades to those who actually did work. The ones who actually did the work to pass her class really liked me.

I hated everything until eighth grade.

Kindergarten: I cried for the first month of school. It ruined my schedule and I panicked every day because nobody would take me home. The teacher instantly labelled me as special needs and assigned a aid. The other people she wandered around with were another HFA girl and some other guy. I don't exactly know why he was there, but I think he was sadistic. Every day, he would grab me and her throughout the day and pinch us and touch our arms and both of us would be screaming and stimming and the aid would be trying to pull him off of us.

1st Grade - Middle of 4th Grade: Still no friends. I would always be at the swings during school (guess why ) and just wouldn't talk to anyone. A dyslexic girl was hauled into our special ed tow. She was nice enough and I kind of understood how she felt because I'm dyscalculic.

5th Grade: More fights, but I interacted with more people. This is where I got my diagnosis. More suspicion towards aid.

Middle School: Boy do I have some things to say about middle school. Girls are always flirting with me (I think). (According to my mom, they like the guys that are hard to get). I either a) slapped them in the face (literally) or b) reported them for sexual harassment. I think everyone was shocked when I got my first girlfriend. I think they were crushed, but they knew something was different with us than the other couples in our year.
My gamer friends + her not-so-girl-like friends sometimes pressured our relationship. It didn't seem to help, but we got better at avoiding those situations and just holding hands alone. We didn't get any farther than that.

9th Grade - Now: I hated my History teacher. Aside from that, I broke up with my girlfriend because we couldn't bring affection to each other in a major way. We still love each other, but we just aren't right. It was especially hard for me (still is) because I don't know what to do now. School's almost over now and the s*** government is delaying school by account of hurricanes and snow storms.

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Middle school was so so for me because everyone liked sonic and was weird, i stll had some problems with socializing but it got REALLY bad in high school. Elementary was so-so. I didnt know what i was doing 70% of the time so i made a friend, she has FAS (Fetal Alchohol syndrome)

I found ages 11 to 15 the most hardest. That was when I began to realise how lonely I was, and the social isolation brought me into depression and don't think it has done me any good, which was why I grew up into a very depressed, self-doubtful adult.

I sometimes got a little fed up when I was at primary school, I looked around at other children and thought, ''they're having a much better time than I am.'' But I thought that was just down to being shy, so I just ignored it and carried on. I suppose those sorts of things don't bother you so much at primary school, as they do when you hit secondary school, even for NTs.

When I was age 4 to 7, it was so easy to just go up to other children and have a random conversation with them. I remember once I was playing by myself in the playground when it was just starting to rain. I was pretending it was snowing, so I yelled out, ''yay, it's snowing again!'' Then a little boy nearby smiled at me and said, ''it's not snowing, it's raining.'' I said, ''yeah, I know, but I'm pretending it's snowing.'' The little boy seemed inspired by that, and he wanted to pretend it was snowing too, because we didn't used to get a lot of snow back in the 90s.
Then I remember at the middle school where I was aged 7 to 11, when I was 9 there was a rage about Pokemon, and nearly all the kids in school brought in Pokemon cards and just went around the playground asking random children to swap their Pokemon cards. I got caught up in the craze and did it too, and it was socially acceptable. It seemed more things were socially acceptable back then, and it wasn't so easy to get bullied. Well, I never was bullied anyway.

But at secondary school, they began to stick with their cliques and you had to basically tread on eggshells all the time, as not to get yourself bullied. I did quite a pretty good job, although I didn't have any friends to lean on to, so I had to figure everything out all on my own. I survived, that's the main thing.

To me, 4th and 5th grade were the hardest for me. I wasn't as social as I was in the other grades, and I had such a difficult time controlling my temper at the time, it got to a point where I had to change classes, and eventually schools. I don't have that problem as much, now.

I voted "Middle Grades". Based on my own experiences, Middle Grades bullies are both physically aggressive and verbally aggressive. Younger bullies aren't that verbally aggressive whereas older bullies aren't that physically aggressive.

Grade 9 to 12. It was. Mostly mental bullying which was worse than physical because I had permission to fight back if I was physically bullied but not if I was called a name or gossiped about.....I was ill equipped to deal with the mental and emotional bullying.....I ended up spending most of those years in the library or off school grounds during lunch.