Needing PERFECTION
Yeah the same thing happens with me, I set my standards way too high. The self harm part generally only includes punching myself, hitting myself, slapping myself, things like that. I also harm objects and walls and things like that, like how I ripped my bass off and threw it.
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what would be good for you, is to find compatible people to play with, ones who are considerate enough to make allowances for your needs, who can agree with you on a common visual shorthand messaging system for onstage. you also need to restrict your gigs to people at your level or above, as there is often friction when people of mixed abilities play together, missed communications and misconstruing of messages. maybe it would be best if you could cobble together a "band in a box" and just play with you and the roboband. thataway there can be no disagreements/missed/misconstrued messages.
get a load of this contrabass french horn
[youtube]http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=bC3UvJpxXO8&feature=related[/youtube]
beautiful! and at the end of the video you will see a visual link to a humongous subcontrabass saxophone.
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through elementary/middle/jr/high school, i played a succession of wind instruments [clarinet, alto clarinet, bass clarinet, contralto clarinet, tuba] adequately well for the time, though i never got beyond 2nd chair on clarinet, due to my lack of sightreading ability. i've always had a preference for low-pitched instruments, so i tried to play bassoon but i couldn't get the embouchure right, and just squawked horribly on it. so i went to tuba, but that wore out my lips which became chronically chapped. i'd love to own a BBb contrabass clarinet, those are such sephulchral beasts that vibrate the floor and air around them. below, is the deepest clarinet ever made-
[youtube]http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ilXI7Z8oUzo[/youtube]
below, is the deepest flute ever made-
[youtube]http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=S8p_Qv7UXKs&feature=related[/youtube]
you are very advanced, AFAIC. you have a quick brain and a quick body, compared to many. in a way, being a successful musician requires one to have great/quickthinking social intelligence to be interacting with other human musicians.
p.s.- speaking of singing and playing simultaneously, the late karen carpenter [who was a very good drummer, btw] could drum and sing seamlessly together. same for ringo starr and the late "the band" drummer. they amaze me.
That contrabass clarinet isn't a LeBlanc, perchance?
I played that piece of garbage instrument made by G. LeBlanc et cie. when I tried to get my teacher certification in the early 1980's. That horn was in the repair shop every other day. I'd rather play a Selmer or Yamaha than any Leblanc's from that era. If it weren't for the fact that Buffet does not make a contrabass clarinet (as far as I know), else I'd be blaing that horn.
To be fair, I wouldn't mind trying the Maury Backun-designed LeBlanc, as I have heard quite a good bit of positive press about those horns.
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none other. they were the only ones to make octo-contra instruments- that is, horns pitched an octave lower than contra clarinets.
wow you must have lots of money to be able to afford those pricey horns. I realize that the leblanc horns were temperamental but for their boosters, a labor of love. I love the paperclip design, it is so much easier to haul around.
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none other. they were the only ones to make octo-contra instruments- that is, horns pitched an octave lower than contra clarinets.
wow you must have lots of money to be able to afford those pricey horns. I realize that the leblanc horns were temperamental but for their boosters, a labor of love. I love the paperclip design, it is so much easier to haul around.
Unfortunately, I did not own that contrabass. It was owned by the University where I was studying for my certification in music education.
I always heard the story that, depending on what part of the CONUS you were from, determined the manufacturer's horn you played on. For example, on the East and West Coasts, Buffet and Selmer (and not in that order) were the preferred instruments, while LeBlanc was strong in the Midwest.Antonio Maezzo, Anthony Gigliotti and Ignatius Genussa played Selmer, while Leonard Rose was solidly Buffet.
I can definitely identify with this. I am the biggest perfectionist I know, and I've thrown out many, many otherwise perfectly good recordings (I sing Opera), paintings, and pieces of writing because of tiny errors. I become frustrated and overwhelmed and just throw it all in the garbage. It's perfection or nothing, which is completely disabling from a creative point of view.
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