Finally got SSI, how do I actually manage it?

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Most of the time I forget about online discussions when I'm not actively reading them. Including this one.

I've noticed sometimes people seem to assume that participation in a conversation means a deeper investment in that conversation well beyond the conversation itself than may actually be present.

How do you go about not caring? I mean people say its easier to not care......but it seems like none of them can explain how they go about not caring can you describe it? I can not care about myself or life or whatever but when it comes to people saying or doing hurtful things it still effects me.

Well his first comment in the thread looked more like an attempt to provoke people than give any helpful advice which is what the OP asked for. Followed by the continous sarcasm about it and how the Op now has governmen't benefits 'rolling' in trying to make it sound as though they are living some luxiourious life at the expense of the taxpayers which is utter BS. If that doesn't paint a picture of what he thinks of people who could benefit from or are on programs like SSI I am not sure what would.

Someone left me a mean comment about my husband on my blog and I just smiled and thought about responding but decided not to. Why should I care what some random stranger thinks online? Only good thing about the comment was it made me realize how much I appreciate my husband and love him so it was a good comment after all.

He said I was pretending my husband is disabled and I didn't care so defending him would be pointless since he has already made up his mind and I don't need to waste an hour of my time emailing the accuser about it. So not caring just saves me time because I can do other things than spending my time arguing with a person.

I am not sure how to explain it, I just don't really care what a person thinks. How is it going to effect me what some dude over in the UK thinks of my husband if he is never going to see us nor doesn't even know what we both look like? My husband also doesn't post online anymore and even if he did, that dude still wouldn't know his user names so no way would he go harassing him.

I just remember a lot of what I read whether I'm invested in it or not. I shouldn't assume other people do too. The only thing I meant by my reply to you was that there is no point in being civil to someone or explaining your views when that person is going to turn around and spit in your face in reply. I didn't do a very good job of explaining that. Look again at his earlier reply to Jkid below. Here you have a guy who is struggling to make a relatively normal normal life for himself. Can you see Cavendish's reply as anything but nasty? I mean is telling someone to commit fraud really helpful advice? This kind of nastiness has been his standard operating procedure since he first started posting on this forum. There's no reason to be civil to him and he shouldn't even be on this forum to harass and demean people.

Would you see it differently if that person had made 70+ such comments on your blog?

Well I guess when people say nasty things to me I get this physical feeling reaction, and ignoring it doesn't make it not exist its still there just the same...do you not get that?

Comments must be approved first. Besides it's only one person.

I think it's a fault you need to work on.

My point was that this one person has made 70+ comments like this here. Obviously your blog is set to require approval to prevent people from doing exactly what Cavendish is doing on this forum. You approved that persons comment, would you have approved 69 more if their theme was the same? I'm guessing probably not.

I don't see how being human is a fault. I can't speak for sweetleaf but to me rolling over and ignoring people who s**t on others, especially while those others are struggling, is not the best solution.

Umm right then...I kind of figured it was a natural reaction to being hurt by people being nasty to me, so i take it you don't experiance that feeling than? Anyways the only way I can think to 'work on' that would be to find a drug that prevents me from having that physical reaction, so I guess I'll get on that then.

It depends on how it's said. If people are mean about it, I won't approve it and maybe I will approve another mean comment by that same person (if he does another one) just to show the whole world how dumb he is and that he can't even be bothered to read the whole blog first (50 posts is too much for him?). I would even respond to the mean comment for some drama and then all my viewers would have some entertainment to read if he responds back and I argue with him for a little bit. I might put some drama in my blog if I get any other mean comments and I feel like approving them to respond to them for the whole world to see. It would depend on my mood.

It takes practice to develop skill in not giving a flying you-know-what

People all have opinions we don't like, we all have opinions other people don't like. We don't have to like everyone's opinion but the best we can do it not let it bother us.

I am sure there are people out there that think parents who leave their kids unattended at a bank in the toy area while they wait in line are using the play area as a baby sitter and are lazy parents and "breeders." Well what i think about that is, screw their opinion, I will just keep going to the bank and leave my son with the toys while I wait in line to get money out of the bank for laundry and if someone wants to judge me for it, go right ahead. I find that so much easier than keeping my son with me and have him fuss and scream and then not being able to be in the bank to get my money because I am caring too much about that someone may think I am a bad parent. besides wouldn't the point of the toy area be for kids to play in so they keep busy and not be bord and not have to run around? So if I were to see a negative comment about parents leaving their kids playing in the toy area while they wait in line, I won't let it bother me.

I do see negative comments all the time online about people on SSI, people on GA or welfare, parents, kids, pregnant women and most of them are ignorant or closed minded and I don't let them bother me. I don't have to like their opinions though. But being off Babycenter and off childree forums, I don't see much of it anymore.

So my point is if we care too much what people think, then we won't be able to live a calm life and not make our own choices we like and we would let their thoughts rule our lives telling us how to live and what choices to make because we are caring too much what someone would think. There are Murphy's Law everywhere and they pretty much exist in everything so no matter that choices we make, someone will always have a critical opinion about it so we shouldn't let it bother us and just do what we are happy with.

There's a difference between expressing an opinion and coming to an autism forum to repeatedly belittle people with an opinion. The reason people with ASD have even the meager resources that are available to us is because some people with ASD and parents of people with ASD stood up and called BS on the kind of thinking cavendish and others like him promote. This isn't about opinion, it's about harassment.

For some of the users on WP this is one of the few place they have social contact and is their only source for help coping with problems. Why should they be made to feel worthless here and why should I ignore it?

I just find it hard to believe that you would not have cut cavendish off on your blog long ago if he were making the same comments.















































Too sleepy to do any more. You'd allow this on your blog?