Does anyone really understand you?

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In additon to the basic power, glory, and ego gratification, I have read that beyond many a famous person is the need to be understood.

Until recently I had poor luck with doctors. I met my current therapist who immediately recognised my aspergers and is the only person I have met outside this forum who seems to have a clue. My wife has a pretty good (albeit partial) grasp on what's going on in my head. I am yet to find any other NTs with any remote idea. Therapy has been good with my current doc, but in some ways I was funtioning and adapting better without knowing I have AS.

To put it this way:

Imagine running out of gas and pushing your car 100 meters to a gas/petrol station. After 50 meters of hard pushing you discover the parking brake is on and broken so you cannot disengage it. Had I not noticed, I would have pushed on and on, but instead I have lost the ambition to keep going. Now I'm waiting on the tow truck.

Of course, no one ever really understands anyone else fully, but the only 2 people that really 'get' who I am are my brother and my dad. Doctors know nothing and told me that I'd never be able to do any better than grade 4 maths (don't know what this is called outside Australia) and I might have bi-polar, both of which are very wrong. The best therapy I get is by talking things through with them (human based anyway. Dancing, playing music, going for a walk and painting work also).

Well since no one knew the correct dx, psychotherapy was not a huge benefit. I enjoyed talking to my counselors/therapists but as soon as they put me in Group, that was the end! I cannot talk to groups of people! Uggh!
Actually, one one guy got it, but he never bothered to tell me what he thought were my challenges/issues. I was mad at him then, but it makes sense now. I should have used him for therapy!

Sincerely,
Matthew

<----- Way too complicated for the NT mind. For aspies, not so much.