It's official! I'm an Aspie! yea!!

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For all the reasons mentioned I was so relieved. . .I had been having a lot of trouble at work. Four people quit within the two years I started, I know I played a minor role in a couple of them deciding to leave (unfortunately I was friends with a girl who was a major gossip and would tell me everything they said), but it was the last one who accused me of backstabbing her and that was why she was leaving. I was completely shocked. I had actually been trying to help, but someone who was much craftier than I (it really doesn't take a lot, I just assume everyone is as honest and direct as I am), was able to use something I said to confirm what she had thought. . .well that is a long story, my point is I was really wondering what the heck was wrong with me. I have many other issues, all of which are explained by the AS diagnosis. It was such a relief to know that I'm not a bad person, that do actually think differently than most people, and that there are a bunch of wonderful people out there that *do* understand the way I think.
Yep, I didn't expect it to make me so happy and relieved, but it did. There is no way I am ashamed of it. As my husband points out, I'm still the same person I was before the diagnosis, but now I know why I have trouble with somethings and why I am really good at some things.

Congrats! I hope I can say the same thing in a few months when I go for an official diagnosis.

Isn't it horrible? Gain a diagnosis, lose a friend.

Back to the shame thing - I agree with the theory that feeling that way is negative sum and it's better not to do it, but late diagnosis is a shock. You've spent decades fighting to prove you're not only normal but successful, in a state of complete ignorance of the real world's nature, and it was all wrong. It takes a while to get over it, and all that while there are unknowing autistics all around you whose ignorance is unthreatened. Protected, even.

Congratulations! Welcome to the exclusive club. Of course now that you are in we can show you the secret handshake (it's actually more of a quick and awkward wave) tell you where the clubhouse is, (nobody really goes though we stay home and talk online) and also the most important thing, the membership dues. The dues aren't to WP, thats free, but to be an aspie you have to pay dues, otherwise you are just an IT professional or an engineer (civil, electrical or train)

You can send them to me, it's $500 USD a year. If you don't have the cash you can pay in either cheese or chocolate. I'll PM my address shortly.

Actually though, all joking aside, I'm glad the dx helped you. Mine explained a whole lot to me, and I wish you that kind of insight.

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I'm giving it another shot. We will see.
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