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08 Oct 2012, 10:09 pm

I was like that before. Now i just do not care.

And I know atleast one such "friendly and outgoing" person. Well maybe not always happy. But definitely friendly and outgoing. And this is just what she is. Her nature. She likes being friendly and outgoing, not because of some social ladder, but because she just likes it. And this is not a bad thing, definitely.
It is not friendliness, that make people shallow and empty. It's just that some people are empty by-design...



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09 Oct 2012, 12:43 am

Kindertotenlieder79 wrote:
outofplace wrote:
I am always suspicious of overly friendly, happy, outgoing people. They have no "depth" to them (at least not to me) and i can never get a good read on them so I find them to be suspicious.


Ah yes, the folks that claim 3 or 4 different people as their "best friend". Seriously, shouldn't one only have one "best" friend?


Exactly. Their social lives are like a lake that occupies 100 square miles but is only an inch deep. I'd rather have fewer people to deal with but with whom I have a far more intimate relationship.


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14 Oct 2012, 12:30 pm

Amen to that


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14 Oct 2012, 12:45 pm

There are some people who are very deep and intellectual and know a lot about certain things like history and politics and read A LOT but are also extremely social friendly and outgoing and spend A LOT of time with large groups of people and have different social circles from the different things they do (work friends , school friends ect). My sister is one of those people. I don't look down on them (I can't ) but I am jealous that they seem to have "the best of both worlds".



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14 Oct 2012, 12:50 pm

dd, you remind me of the characters in the excellent movie "Interiors" directed by Woody Allen, if anyone's seen it here. The movie shows what's really inside those people you describe (I'm of course not talking about your sister) and it's far less attractive than it looks on the outside. Allen draws a magnificent contrast between them and so-called "simple" people.


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14 Oct 2012, 1:24 pm

Moondust wrote:
dd, you remind me of the characters in the excellent movie "Interiors" directed by Woody Allen, if anyone's seen it here. The movie shows what's really inside those people you describe (I'm of course not talking about your sister) and it's far less attractive than it looks on the outside. Allen draws a magnificent contrast between them and so-called "simple" people.


Interesting......I've must see this movie.....



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14 Oct 2012, 2:13 pm

Woah..Finally I see what is in my head in writing!
I have often thought that people who claim to have many friends are fake and there is no way one can actually care for so many people. I also sometimes think that they are being pretentious. But I always hit dead end when I try to think how they process so many people.
I absolutely need some 'me' time everyday where i am left alone and I can get quite irritable when I do not have space when I want.
I can go to parties occasionally when I know what I can expect in those parties. I tend to talk to a few people there and see what I can learn from them.
I have learned over time not to compare myself to others. But I do feel smug sometimes when I realize what an asset it is to be able to enjoy yourself without people around.


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