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I was like that when I was in college...still am to some extent even now. There was no way I would have been able to have a roommate in the dorms, so I managed to get private rooms, which made things a lot easier.

Same as you all, having been able to live alone for years in tiny spaces just to be alone, then,moving in with many other people. I sometimes wonder about a nice groupmhousing system for aspies where everyone can keep to their own room quietly, no one is partying, common areas stay neat, no one tries to,catch and talk to you when you have to leave your room for facilities or food, and everyone can enjoy the house pet. Groups of us in different places should just do it...

Last edited by seaside on 19 Jan 2013, 4:31 am, edited 2 times in total.

That's one of the worst things about sharing - you're expected to be social and woe betide if you aren't.

That would be great. Unfortunately, where I come from, there is sheltered housing for people with disabilities, but it is so hard to get into that group if you are only mild. In order to receive extra support and get given a home that will suit your needs, you need to fill out very complicated forms and have to meet a certain criteria, otherwise you don't get in. And we're afraid to lie even a little bit on these sorts of forms, because if you get found out (which people do), you get sent to prison. It really sucks.

I can't believe how much Asperger's Syndrome is being misunderstood. It's worse than I thought. I think even severe or even moderate Autism gets a little more understood, but people with Asperger's Syndrome do not get even a teeny little bit understood. They just put us on anti-depressants and think that will solve all our problems. I think people with Asperger's Syndrome should be more understood.

An adult with Mental Retardation or something else disabling like that doesn't really mind where they are put, as long as they are cared for and have food and warmth. But an adult with Asperger's Syndrome may be more self-aware and more able to look after ourselves and hold down a job and we may have average to above average intelligence, etc, but because of our sensory issues and anxiety issues, etc, we kind of rely on our environment or rituals to feel secure and able to function well. That's the part what most people don't understand. This is why I totally agree with what you said about putting people on the spectrum (that are able to live alone) in sheltered housing, where we are less likely to have big parties, etc. Well, I suppose we aren't all the same, but it's still a good idea.

I feel your pain. If you are unable to live alone (or with a roomie who knows how to be quiet and behave), I see nothing wrong with using your room as a safe haven. There's nothing wrong with using your private room to recharge, provided you venture out of it every so often.
I live with my family (4 other people), and can not STAND the noise they make when I'm trying to fall asleep. For some reason I seem to have very heightened hearing right before falling asleep, and can essentially hear my family members breathing throughout the house. Telling them to shut up rarely accomplishes anything, so I don't recommend that route. I've just been trying to pretend that it's nothing but TV noise. (I have no issues with hearing the TV playing). Otherwise: earplugs.

Would it be reasonable to call this an "Aspie" Apartment Building? The advantages of knowing other aspies, of having people around that also would want a reduced sensory load, and an enviroment which could encourage special interests.

If only people wer'nt as tied down to their current geographical locations....