An Experiment in College

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I disagree
how else can things get better for us?
full NT emulation mode got me nowhere for 47 years

actually no, I'm worse off now actually in many ways
I think this is just normal 'difficult transition' though
I am almost home

I've struggled with this for years... in high school, I didn't tell some 'friends' and they ended up laughing and making me the joke when I wasn't around, because I'd do funny things on purpose, to make them laugh, and they were laughing... it worked... but it wasn't the "we love you, and you're funny" laughing, it was the "this kid is weird, let's keep him around" laugh.

I ended up meeting some people whom formed a rock band. As I play piano, it was awesome. Godsend. I told my friend, a girl, couple years older, very accepting and loving, and she just was like 'really?' Then said she thought something, but it was so hard to tell. They all just appreciated my humor and, my free spirit. So, from then on, they were just the same, except if I had to get fresh air, they'd understand, or the music was too loud, I had to step outside, they were like okay, just hurry up! lol

My church, when I was diagnosed at 12, the youth group was told. They honestly did not care one bit, in fact made a larger effort to talk to me, and hear me out for what I had to offer. Before that, I was annoying, and quiet, sometimes loud.

In college, I did not tell anyone. Only a couple people, however word spreads around. This was even a christian college. So of everyone whom knew, more knew later, as it was a small campus in Chicago. Some would talk down to me, or ask "where are you going?" like I am this lost soul going down the street to the bus stop. lol I said "I'm going where I'm gonna be!" None your bidness. lol

Anyway, some would almost be nice BECAUSE I dealt with it, others really liked me, while some, just wanted nothing to do with me, as they didn't know how to interact with me, which was sad on their part, as I am a personable guy when I know you well, and we start talking, and I trust you. Sometimes groups of people would invite me on outings, and I almost felt weird, like they felt bad or something, so they were like "ohh let's invite gordon... he needs friends..."

Now, out of college, looking for jobs, in the workplace, it would be essential to mention it to the hiring manager at an interview. 1. they can't discriminate, thus could be more likely to hire you, because of your assets, as well as to give you the benefit of your struggles
2. firing you, would be more difficult, because first they will talk and ask you how it's going, and try to accomadate accordingly. (they should)

I worked at a busy grocery store, bagging groceries. I did not disclose it. They trained me a second time, and then said after a month, that it wasn't my forte, but they wouldn't fire me, they will keep me doing other stuff while I find another job. The overstimulations at times, the being on my feet 8 hrs, and just daydreaming aspect of it all, they did not have as much knowledge of, because I did not disclose this. You can request the managers do not share with other employees, unless there are other employee complaints about you. Then they can pull each of you aside, and you yourself, with the manager as the mediator, you say hey... I deal with this, and... so how can we gain common ground here to work better together? I wish I disclosed my case to them. Next time.