how lonely do you usually feel?

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Im insanity inducing lonely.

I have one true friend at present and she lives 300miles away so i only get to see her on average once a month. That only fulfills my needs for a few days.

My social needs are curently totally unmet.

My main social need at present is to be hugged regularly. I think that is a result of my repeated child sexual abuse and lack of affection since my last full hug/cuddle by my mum when i was age 7 as she became seriously ill.

My other social need is to share my life with someone in some way. Not all the time just key events and enjoyable things i do.

Depressingly lonely. I'm so isolated and distant from any social network. I try to deal with it, I hold on, but I'm gradually crumbling. Months, years, I don't know how long my sanity can hold out. I long for some input other than my own. No-one can see through my shell, I'm so closed and distant. Only time will tell.

I'll either feel not lonely at all, then realize "hey, I wish I had a friend to do ___ with" and then feel soul-gnawingly lonely for a little while. My 2 kittens help with the lonliness, since I live alone.
I love your phrasing, "soul-gnawingly lonley", I mostly just posted this to say that.

I vacillate between soul-gnawing lonelyness and well, content I suppose one would call it. the problem is when the lonleyness has got me, it's GOT me and even if I can somehow muster up the courage to go out and try to find people to spend some time with, it just winds up making me more lonely, as I can never find anyone with any sort of common interests and I end up being the odd one out.

I read somewhere that Aspie's are "alone", even in a room full of people, we're alone. It's nearly impossible to connect to others so I guess because of that we're loners. I don't think it means we all want to be that way, it's just part of being an Aspie.

For me, very seldom do I feel lonely, I feel alone, but not lonely. There are times when I get an urge to want to do something and wish I had company and not having but 1 friend who's married w/kids makes that hard to do. Not too long ago, I guess it was on impulse, I got in this mood to watch people and was really bored and I did something I thought I would never do, actually before my diagnosis, I know I wouldn't have done it. I went to a dance club by myself. I've been to a bar/club maybe 3 times in my 42 years...with friends.

I was there for maybe 5 minutes and kind of freaked and got ready leave when some lady started talking to me, saying she'd never seen me there before. She was nice and I didn't get a bad vibe from her so I just went with it. Turned out she has a son who's mentally ret*d and autistic...hah! How could I have gotten so lucky to randomly meet someone such as herself? So I sort of latched onto her and she watched people dance with me. She danced some but I just stood there and watched. She gave me the scoop of the place and even though I was a little scared, it wasn't too bad. She mentioned exchanging phone numbers but I got new for her, that is NOT going to happen. There was some guy there I know vaguely from work just kind of standing around, so that helped me seeing him. When I realized he had left though I freaked and left myself. I was there about an hour and a half and was glad I did it.

It was an interesting experience but I don't know that I'll go back. Certainly not very often because I don't need people that much but at least I know I can if I want to bad enough.

Before I got married, I was kind of the same way. I also sometimes wished I had company for certain events, just so people wouldn't stare at me. Like eating in a restaurant. If you go to a restaurant alone, people look at you a lot, and I hate to be looked at.

I used to feel lonely because I was trying very hard to make friends, but nobody liked me. Now I am no longer trying to make friends, I don't get lonely at all.

Sometimes.

I'm not sure if being unhappy causes me to withdraw and be lonely, or whether being lonely causes me to be unbearably sad. Usually I'm happy by myself though.

Quite lonely.

The only time I'm "lonely," which is the only time I seek out social interaction, is when I'm really, really anxious and need distraction/reassurance or when I'm in one of my "full-blown Aspie" modes, and talking about my obsessive fixations to myself isn't enough and I need to talk to a real person. But 90% of the time, I'm perfectly content on my own. And 90% of my social interaction is on forums. When I'm at my computer or in my room alone, I'm at total peace. I spend hours upon hours by myself, and that's the way I like it- that's the way it NEEDS to be for me to function.
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I am a very lonely person but not insanely so.The most frustrating part of my loneliness is that when I'm not around people, I feel very lonely but when I am around people, I'm too nervous to talk to them and mabey make some friends.

heh, I am very alone. I get frustrated at times that I usually spend most of my time on the computer or playing videogames.

Feeling alone in a crowd is a pretty crap-tastic feeling.

It helps when friends of mine are around me, but even then, sometimes I just feel disconnected, can't really explain what I mean by that, just the word that comes to mind when I try to describe the feeling.

I may get very lonely, but not the needy sort of lonely. More like wanting to share my feelings, and having a sense of belonging.

At other times, I'm content with my own company. I'm usually still glad to talk to people when they come, or to just be with them, but if they don't come I don't miss them.

It's like being a brimming cup. One may be just fine being alone, because one is happy with who one is and with the way things are, but then that completeness overflows and one wants to share it with somebody else.

Insanity-inducing lonely...

Although I don't desire company.

I get attached to certain people and want to see them. The longer I don't see them the antsier I get.