Are you lonely?

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Yes, I hear you. Though I live by myself, my bedroom is my comfort zone. I have my computer and TV in my bedroom. And that is were I spend most of my time. But, I'm never lonely. I love being by myself and not have to put up with other human beings and I enjoy being with my favorite objects.

Don't fear it. Enjoy it. The key to keeping happy without other humans is having hobbies and other interests. And of course it helps me to be fixated on objects and subjects. In my case, I only interact with humans when I have to go shopping or the doctor's office etc. I also interact with a family with a severely austistic child and the dad has some autistic traits. But that is about it.

I can say I'm very lonely, but I realize that I'm enjoying my time alone at home a lot every day. It's when I'm at work and have colleagues around that I feel very lonely because they remind me that I don't connect with them and I am truly alone. Once I'm at home, I feel happy and relaxed though loneliness doesn't completely go away.

Suicide hotlines can't help me because you explain what you are feeling and they they to relate but don't understand that you are not an NT. Running into NT's is tough. Currently I entered treatment for aspergers but the therapist wants to focus on my bulimia first. I went out today, ran into someone I knew. We talked a bit but I felt awkward when I left because I couldn't tell how he percived me. It left me wanting to binge eat and end my life but as usual I march on. I wanted to cry while talking with the therapist and she explained that she couldn't detect any of it or read my body language at all as it is with all people that I meet. I come across as insanely intelligent and its consistent. No one gets me, someone left us on this planet to punish us.I hate this planet. Being around others reminds me how lonely I truly I am.

I love being alone and getting my creative things done. When I'm not busy with that I sometimes wish I had a 'somebody' to go for a walk for example, and get an upset and lonely feeling. It passes. I have never wanted or kept friends in real life who just show up at one's house and hang out.

I act like I like being by myself, but I really hate being alone or with my family.

It's amazing that our suicide rate isn't higher. It's probably because we are so rationale.

I'll admit that I don't really understand either how people can spend all, or most, of their free time on their own and not feel lonely; I think I would go crazy. Maybe I already am crazy, and just don't know it.

NT's get lonely, I know they do. Wanting to connect with each other is a necessity, its an essential component in human nature. This is why solitary confinement can lead to serious mental implications. God I want to die rather than always live alone like this. I don't want to become like one of these Apies that has found hapiness in complete solitude, spending all their time in their rooms. Letting life pass them bye. I don't enjoy video games; honestly I want friends and people to do things with and a wife and children and to focus on my education and contribute to the world but God I don't want life long solitude; I tire of not being able to connect with others or read others. There are people on here who talk crap as well; because they have friends; even if you don't see them, knowing that someone in the world still cares about you means something. I literally have no one; correction I have an internet friend in Australia that I seldom exchange emails with when I hit to roughest points. These darn Aspies; we really are Aliens. This is such bull!

For me it is kinda interesting as I do work and at work I do socialize so I do not feel all that lonely, though when I got home I rather stay at home and not go anywhere unless I want to ride for a bit on my motorcycle. With friends I do not have many and in fact I have just 4 that I talk to daily and that is only while I am at work most of the time. Though to hang out is something entirely different as I can hang out for days for a time, or I could have done what I did for the past 4 months or more and not even want to hang out, not even talk on the phone, I really kinda hate talking on the phone. Though to meet randomly for a word or two doesn't bother me in fact it feels good for only a word or two. As for a significant other I am not into that all too much, as even I said to my friend I said "I am happy that I am virgin". I am just happy the way I am. First post here and I really do like posting this more than posting anywhere else.

I can actually relate to most of what you write here. At the moment I am out of work because, once again, I thought that those who were in charge where I used to work were incompetent, and I told the manager this. Needless to say, he was not happy; well, screw him, he liked to brag about his non-existent accomplishments anyway.
So, at this time I am spending most of my time in my room. It can be bearable at times (like now, when I am at the 'Wrong Planet' website), but it is, admittedly, not enough. Even so, the unexpected can occur even when one is doing something as placid and passive as searching the net. I've just recently made two new friends this way, and I had seriously given up on the idea and was making plans for how I could make my time alone (which was ALL the time) productive. It was a completely unexpected development, I never would have thought it possible, if only because I can be very abrasive and direct with those I come into contact with. I'm often grumpy and negative too, as some of my posts here will testify.
Anyway, my point is this. Even though life can be unbearable, predictable, monotonous, mundane, pointless, boring and lonely, the inability to truly tell what may happen tomorrow or next week keeps me going. When I was a teenager, and well into my twenties, there were times when I didn't think that I could go on, and I even at one stage attempted suicide (sleeping pills - I didn't take enough of them for it to work). I was, however, relieved afterwards that I did not succeed. I sometimes think of all of the things that I would not have experienced, all of the things that I would have missed out on, if I had succeeded (back in 1984).

The internet friend you have in Australia that you've mentioned; you should, if you have not done so already, contact him/her and let this person know all about what you are going through. He/she might be able to help in some way. It's worth a try.
Yes, we really are aliens. My only question is: where are we really from? Maybe Epsilon Eridani, I've always liked that name

I think that, somewhere along the way, I should resolve to end my loneliness. I don't know how long I can keep this up.

My friend in Australia is the biggest support in my life. I write to him whenever it gets bad. We started out as rivals of sorts but became friends. He has been there for me more than anyone else over the last year. He is the best friend I have ever had in my entire life. He knows everything that has been happening and gives me advice. A honestly great human being.

I was going to post I never get lonely, never had done.. but then I am married with 2 kids, 17 and 20 (odd names I know but we like them) ... maybe that doesn't allow me the option of being lonely ?
I enjoy being on my own and look forward to it.

Stu

I get lonely very rarely, but i have realized if i keep socializing with people i will just get lonely more often as i basically fail all the time at trying to talk to people. But i realize i cant give up as you really need to be social in the job force.

i found a sort of cold comfort in the twilight zone [80s version] episode "a saucer of loneliness" where this flying saucer from who knows where, zeroed in on this extremely shy and lonely young spinster woman, and the message it left her, was-

To the Loneliest One

"There is in certain living souls
A quality of loneliness unspeakable
So great it must be shared
As company is shared by lesser beings.
Such a loneliness is mine; so know by this
That in immensity
There is one lonelier than you."