04 Apr 2013, 9:47 am
04 Apr 2013, 1:45 pm
Really, why are people offended about when they hear about someone lying about rape? Are they denying it doesn't happen?
they might be denying, i agree with you that lying about something so serious is just as bad as blaming the victim.
It hurts future cases and can ruin reputations, thus lives.
People are fascinated with exceptions. The one guy who fell out of the airplane without a parachute and survived is more interesting than those who died. Because one guy survived doesn't mean it is a good idea to fall out of an airplane without a parachute.
People get annoyed when they hear stories brought up about women lying about rape because that exception is often used to dismiss the reality about rape. 1 in 5 women in college will be sexually assaulted, and most of those violations will either go unreported or be dismissed by school faculty.
When it is so important to educate people about the prevalence of rape in our culture, having people present exceptions as if they are significantly relevant to the reality of rape in our society is frustrating. Imagine every time you try to talk about skydiving safety there is the one guy who keeps bringing up that some people have walked away from a dive without a parachute.
Add this to the fact that women who do report are grilled about their violation, sexually histories, drinking habits, and motives as if they are the ones at fault, and you can see why people do get upset when exceptions keep being brought up as if they are significantly relevant to the reality of rape in our society.
Do women sometimes lie, and is it devastating? Yes, but it is minor concern statistically compared to the overwhelming numbers of women who are assaulted and never receive any form of justice.
That makes more sense. I get annoyed when someone brings up the fact that women like to be forced to have sex when someone is talking about rape or being pressured to have it. It just sounds like an excuse to rape a woman just because some women like to be forced so it can't be the guy's fault he raped the woman because how was he supposed to know she didn't want to be forced because some women like that and don't want the guy to take 'no' as an answer.
IMO if a woman wants to be forced to have sex, she has to tell the guy that and no guy should forced sex on a woman unless she tells him she wants that. That way no rape will happen.
I also understand now why some women would sue a man after they have sex with them. Maybe they were pressured to have it because they wouldn't take no for an answer. I also think that is a form of rape but lot of people have the concept that if you say yes, it's not rape. Well how do they think women get raped in the first place? Not all rape has to be violent.
04 Apr 2013, 1:57 pm
04 Apr 2013, 2:22 pm
I have been accused of sending mixed messages. For one I have always like getting my head rubbed or my back. It fees so good but apparently this is a message to guys I want sex. So does that mean I wanted it with my dad when he would rub me? That is so gross. It even sickens me when I think that. Does that also mean I wanted it with my mother? Also ew. How could people think like this? Even my husband has this concept too and can't grasp it does not mean I want it but he thinks my body does and I don't know I want it and I tell him "Just an excuse for a man to rape someone." I can see why it would be dismissed when a woman claims rape and that is where blaming the victim comes in.
My ex boyfriend often had blue balls because he refused to get the concept me liking to be rubbed is not a message for me wanting sex. At last my last ex got that concept quick.
The problem was my first ex was too obsessed with sex and had it on his mind too much so it clouded his judgment. My mom even thought he was going to rape me sometime because of the way he was about it.
Even in elementary school I always loved it when they send in health people to inspect our hair for head lice and I loved it because them touched my head when they look felt so good and I always hated it when it lasted a minute. I wanted it to go on forever. I must have wanted sex.
I think sex is over rated and it corrupts peoples minds.
04 Apr 2013, 5:12 pm
My ex boyfriend often had blue balls because he refused to get the concept me liking to be rubbed is not a message for me wanting sex. At last my last ex got that concept quick.
The problem was my first ex was too obsessed with sex and had it on his mind too much so it clouded his judgment. My mom even thought he was going to rape me sometime because of the way he was about it.
Even in elementary school I always loved it when they send in health people to inspect our hair for head lice and I loved it because them touched my head when they look felt so good and I always hated it when it lasted a minute. I wanted it to go on forever. I must have wanted sex.
I think sex is over rated and it corrupts peoples minds.
That's different
Touch can be non-sexual and often is
that's not the same as getting into bed with a person at all
04 Apr 2013, 6:06 pm
It happens to me all the time! 
04 Apr 2013, 6:08 pm
04 Apr 2013, 7:57 pm
04 Apr 2013, 9:28 pm
