Is indecisiveness common amongst aspies?

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you will get faster as you grow to be my age, trust me on this.

I'm extremely indecisive.

One specific example is that I agonize over buying anything. I do a cost analysis over and over and over until it doesn't make any logical sense anymore. I've walked around a shop for a hour trying to figure out if I should buy a $15 shirt. Nowdays, I put it back instead of torturing myself and go get it later if I conclude that I should have bought it.



On the plus side...I don't do much frivolous spending...

That's good to know.

Wait ... I want to change my answer!

Yes, I have always been a perfectionist and meticulous, and I want to be meticulously perfect about all decisions.

So I always think excessively in all decisions, because I feel more comfortable when I am painstakingly thorough.

On the other hand, I noticed that bad things have happened even after I have been meticulous about the decision.

So I occasionally make a rash choice without proper thought, because I try to suppress the perfectionist behavior.

Last edited by MannyBoo on 24 Mar 2013, 6:33 pm, edited 1 time in total.

No, wait ... I want to change it back!

I'll be decisive and create a poll to get an answer.

Decisiveness gets a bad rap....it's a good thing if you tightly limit it to things that a) you know a lot about, or b)are willing to accept the risk of error.

shrub was decisive, and look what it got us.

PPR is another forum.

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i was not intending to wreck the OP's purpose but merely offering an counterpoint to those who say decisiveness is an unmixed blessing.

I'm not sure anyone above ITT did say it was an unmixed blessing. I may have come the closest to that statement, and I qualified my views by stating that you should be decisive....when it's an acceptable risk. At least that's what I tried to get across.

Its a spectrum thing....

I have this problem and it's terrible.

Many normal daily (and seemingly small) decisions are a trial for me.

With many funadamental decisions it takes me longer to make them; to consider them fully and then to achieve the end result.

Fully agreed