Lonely in a crowd of aspies

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Thanks

I can certainly relate to your topic title, though for slightly different reasons than the ones you detailed in your post.

I don't think we should accuse each other of not being on the spectrum if we have more insight into social interactions. I'm sorry that you had that feeling.

Was the group in question run by individual(s) on the spectrum, or by NTs?

Actually, it's more I accused myself. I don't know who it was run by. It was just some adolescent group. Now that I think about it it was some psychiatrist, so probably it was run by an NT. Nevertheless, I was not "kicked out" of the group, but was only having these thought processes by myself.

Well, I range in the 'smart' side of HFA (though as somebody said, all people here have their impairments). I'm very intelligent. This is not showing off, I'm stating a fact. Indeed, intelligence has been all my life the weapon to which I stuck to go through ADHD, Aspeger, OCD and a family that was the worst nightmare out of an Ingman Bergman movie. The only weapon I ever had.

That said, I'd like to point out a couple of things.

(1) People that are not intellligent are not annoying neither ridiculous. People that are not intelligent but want to pretend and show that they're more than they actually are, they are annoying and ridiculous. If you know your limits, you already have a great deal.

(2) Intelligence is a gift, but it's not the only one. Don't focus in what you don't have, focus in what you have or you could have. I'm sorry if I'm too honest, but if you're not intelligent, you will never be.

But you can be courageous, you can fight for what you love. You can be compassionate, you can try to understand, accept and help people around you. You can be honest. If you don't always know what would be the smarter thing, at least you can know what is the right thing and you can stick to it.

Don't think in what you don't have. Look inside you and find something that you can offer to the world. Everybody has something to offer.

Just to clarify on what I mean by self functioning level, I'll say that my diagnose is more lower functioning if we compare to the majority of the population that circulates around this forum. I mean, I do the basic high school work that every student is required to do in order to graduation, though when I first started school my entire day would be spent in a restrictive special education classroom that was for the developmentally/intellectual disabled students. Prior to getting my first chance at becoming accepted into the mainstream, the common perspective that would happen to students such as myself is I'll never graduate high school with a diploma nor would head to college. This step was instrumental in getting friends that I can know outside of school, while when my academic time was spent in the developmentally disabled class I never got the chance to meet up with the disabled students after school. My frustration with the typical high school life grow when I would be walking in the hallways and you'll see these students going off with their peers, even when their peer wasn't going to be in the same classroom as their friend would. This really depresse the f**k out of me.