What have people said to you that made you suspect AS?

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I've had these said to me at various points in my life:

"Why are you so weird?"

"I've never met a person like you before".

"You're so gullible".

"You're too shy".

"Why don't you look at me when you talk?"

"I've always noticed that you don't look people in the eye".

"That was sarcasm...You know that, right?"

"You're always last to understand the joke".

"That wasn't nice what you just said, you know".

"Why don't you like talking to people?"

"Just get to the point of what you are trying to say".

"You take a really long time to speak".

"You get so worked up about the smallest of things".

"You stress yourself out all the time".

"You talk extremely fast...Take a breather!"

"Gosh, you're so annoying!"

"You are not 'normal', Leanne".

"Where did I get this child from?"

"Oh Leanne, you're just so special!"

"What's wrong?...You look so sad". (I was not sad at all).

Last edited by KnarlyDUDE09 on 18 May 2013, 1:45 pm, edited 1 time in total.

Oh yes, I already did a long list on the first page but reading others' lists I now remember these ones:

"That was a joke" *laughs*

"Don't take everything so seriously"

'Oh, *my mum's name* said I upset you with my teasing. I wouldn't want to upset you-I better be careful"

"That was only teasing. He wasn't serious"

"You're so sensitive"- to criticism/teasing

".....and some of us are a little slow"-not understanding friend's sarcastic joke

"You don't have to be so literal.... sheesh!" - my mum

'Where are you from?!"- my ex said that frequently

"Were you born yesterday?" - my ex

Sadly, that's the consensus the world has pushed on me since day one.

People often point out that my eye contact patterns are not typical. I have been asked if I am on the spectrum after asking something rude out of simple curiosity. A couple of former employers have asked me to stop telling bad jokes all the time, pointed out my "deliberate walk," and/or told me to stop tics or stims. There have been repeated expressions of incredulity that I don't "see things coming," particularly when I am taken advantage of by dishonest people.

Some people do enjoy my sense of humor! I think I'd better find one of them next time I go looking for a job.

nothing was really said but my mum would told me "you have a developmental disability because your not like anybody else your age "but i am happy that i was able to find help on what i have but i dont like my mum at all though.

"Why don't you look people in the eye when you speak to them?"

"You don't talk much do you?"

"Smile"

Among many others.

Why don't you make eye contact - I believed until two years ago I was only supposed to make eye contact during job interviews or if flirting which I never do.
Speak up, don't be so shy - I'm not shy, that's how I talk.
Why so depresses, worries upset - when I'm perfectly content
Can we talk about something else other than the walls - back in my architecture obsessive days

Or when they stop talking to me at all and just start interpreting me to each other

"You take everything literally."

"Turn the kitchen/bathroom light off."

"You're being paranoid."

"Do you have Asperger's?"

"You're a psychopath."

"That was a JOKE!"

"You're always in your own little world."

"You are so weird."

"You think in black & white."

"You're very argumentative and stubborn."

"What an uncontrolled outburst!"

"Do you have Asperger's?"

"What is wrong with you?"

"Look at me when I'm talking to you!"

"Space cadet"

"Stop slouching!"

"Are you on something?" (drugs)

"You're like a mad creative genius or something."

"Do you HAVE to use those college words? Why can't you talk like a normal person?"

"If you want friends, you have to go out where people are. They're not gonna come beating down the door."

"You need psychotherapy."

"When are you going to get a REAL job?" (As if being in the entertainment industry isn't?)

"I would NEVER have guessed you were that old!"

"Stop getting so mad. He's just teasing you."

"You never listen."

"How do you remember stuff like that?"

"You couldn't have read all those books so fast."

"You can't take a joke."

"I suspected that you have Asperger's."

"You're too sensitive!"- to criticism/teasing/insults/bullying, etc.

For this very reason, I hold a rock in each hand when I jog in public to throw them at obnoxious people driving by who say that!! ! I actually hit the tail light of a van one time and had to hide in a fir tree for about an hour before the cops stopped searching for me! *WHEW*

Yeah, my mum clearly acts like she has AS (being obsessed with peculiar things, refusing to accept any criticism, getting startled easily, etc.) but criticizes me for acting like I have AS. But she gives me money, so she's tolerable -- although I wonder how my NT pops has stuck with her all those years. She spent most of his money before he made separate financial accounts (they both work outside the home), and she has bullied him with threats to divorce in years past despite his perfectly reasonable objections to the profligate spending and her choosing where to live/relocate every ten years or so -- I guess I'll (thankfully) never understand the power which "love" has over NTs.

Well I'm not really sure if I actually am on the spectrum but I often get people telling me things which sometimes surprise me because I have no idea that I do certain things.
"Are you always this quiet?"
"I was joking, laugh."
"What is wrong with you."
"You're speaking really loudly."
"Speak up."
"Stop making those noises."
"You do that blinky thing like Bob."
"Why are you looking at me so weird."
"What was that look for."
"Do you even pay attention to what I'm saying."
"You're so gullible."
"You've already told me that."
"Calm down."
"You're really bad at lying."
"How did you even think that?"
"Why didn't you say hi to me?"

you act like my autistic son

"I was being sarcastic"
"You have a terrible time with change; it's fine if they alter the book-based movie, it's called creative license"
"You're always in your own world"
"You're so shy"
"You're so quiet, it's like you're hardly here"
"Smile!" (Bio teacher; had no idea why she said that, so I did without knowing what I was smiling for)
"You have a terrible gait/posture"
"Slap slap slap slap" (my mom and sister mimicking my running gait)
"We used to call you Tigger because you never stopped bouncing"
and, the way in which I found out I had AS:
Me: "Why am I so different?"
Mom: "I spoke to a psychologist friend of mine and she said you probably have Asperger's".
Told me in the middle of the airport then scolded me for freaking out. Yeah, classy.

"You talk too much" (meaning, "why are you so quiet?" . . . how original).
"What's with the blank stare?"
"You're like a koala bear."

"Why do you have to take things so literally"

"Why do you have to be so obsessed with science (microbiology), can't you be normal" said at work (I'm a microbiologist)

"Why can't you just be normal" Mom repeatedly

"That's bloody you" bestmate who knows nothIng about AS after watching the first season of Sherlock.

"You'r a very odd aspie "random drunk girl at bar, heard me talking to mate.

I didn't expect that one. Did you ask him/her to elaborate on that one..... to explain how exactly you resemble a Koala bear?