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11 Jun 2013, 2:33 pm

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How should be ones relationship with ones psychatrist??

I have a male psychatrist, he is around my same age?

Its like instant chemistry :P

How should i behave around him?

I get emotionally attached with people who show bit of interest :roll:


Transference is a big part of psychotherapy. Your little list there is classic... "instant chemistry"...priceless!
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Transferen ... chotherapy And it almost always happens between a patient and his or her therapist.


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11 Jun 2013, 3:21 pm

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I am not leaving my husband of 10 years, with whom i share a kid for some guy i met twice
i am not that crazy enough
I think you've already made your decision, haven't you? Just being attracted to someone doesn't mean you have to act on it. You can choose not to. And I think you know you really deep down don't want to, because you don't want to betray your husband and child, people who have been in your life for a long time and whom you love deeply. A simple attraction to a nice person you meet is not really very important compared to a life-long bond with your family.


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11 Jun 2013, 6:44 pm

But that is not the topic of this thread whether or not it is ethical to have a relation with a person who is already married.

The topic of this thread is whether or not a relationship with your therapist can be ethical. And according to medical ethics you and your therapist could be virgins and it still would be considered by the medical establishment a violation of the Hippocratic oath.

If I were to ever see my therapist again I would inform her of my marriage vows rather than judge her medical ethics.



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12 Jun 2013, 2:42 am

tall-p wrote:
namaste wrote:
How should be ones relationship with ones psychatrist??

I have a male psychatrist, he is around my same age?

Its like instant chemistry :P

How should i behave around him?

I get emotionally attached with people who show bit of interest :roll:


Transference is a big part of psychotherapy. Your little list there is classic... "instant chemistry"...priceless!
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Transferen ... chotherapy And it almost always happens between a patient and his or her therapist.

interesting :)

I was told that orphanage babies need to bond with foster parents at early stage even if they are going to end up with other foster parents. Because it is good for the long run. I wonder if this is similar. So if this therapist have this power (best tool as the wikipedia state) and is married then he is trained (hopefully) not to do countertransference (which is what other people have said in this thread).

So this is normal then?



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12 Jun 2013, 5:26 am

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If it was me, I'd want my patient/client to be open with me and to have a dialogue around this.
What if you mention your thoughts to him and gauge his response? A skilled (and ethical) psychiatrist will be able to handle this concern and talk you through to the point where you can make the best decision for you. It really seems a shame to throw away what sounds like a positive relationship without clarifying matters.
If he reciprocates your feelings (e.g. he says that he loves you back and tries to pursue a personal relationship) I would cut, run and consider reporting him to the appropriate medical board for the safety of his other patients (present and future).

you want me to tell him that i have fallen in love with him 8O ?


Well, from the rest of the conversation, it sounds like you've moved past the stage where this is bothersome (if you were even there... if not, sorry for misunderstanding).
I wouldn't recommend just coming out and telling him you love him! Nor am I recommending pursuing a relationship. But maybe just let him know that you're having a hard time understanding the nature of the relationship and ask for clarification. He would (undoubtedly, if he was good) explore this with you and (again, if he was good) help to set up some clear boundaries around the relationship to help you find comfort.
Again, if this problem is no longer bothering you, it's fine to leave it alone. But, if it still makes you uncomfortable, I would attempt this conversation before you drop his services.
That's me, though.


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12 Jun 2013, 7:45 am

tall-p wrote:

Transference is a big part of psychotherapy. Your little list there is classic... "instant chemistry"...priceless!
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Transferen ... chotherapy And it almost always happens between a patient and his or her therapist.

he holds my hand and checks for tremors whenever we meet
i find it odd and it kind of creates a transference


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12 Jun 2013, 7:49 am

Callista wrote:
namaste wrote:
I am not leaving my husband of 10 years, with whom i share a kid for some guy i met twice
i am not that crazy enough
I think you've already made your decision, haven't you? Just being attracted to someone doesn't mean you have to act on it. You can choose not to. And I think you know you really deep down don't want to, because you don't want to betray your husband and child, people who have been in your life for a long time and whom you love deeply. A simple attraction to a nice person you meet is not really very important compared to a life-long bond with your family.

i am a attention seeker and i like it when someone is nice and sweet to me
so i like his company because he shows concern for me
but nothing more then that i wont quit my marriage for him


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12 Jun 2013, 7:50 am

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I was told that orphanage babies need to bond with foster parents at early stage even if they are going to end up with other foster parents. Because it is good for the long run. I wonder if this is similar. So if this therapist have this power (best tool as the wikipedia state) and is married then he is trained (hopefully) not to do countertransference (which is what other people have said in this thread).

So this is normal then?


thats what you try to do all the time


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12 Jun 2013, 7:51 am

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Well, from the rest of the conversation, it sounds like you've moved past the stage where this is bothersome (if you were even there... if not, sorry for misunderstanding).
I wouldn't recommend just coming out and telling him you love him! Nor am I recommending pursuing a relationship. But maybe just let him know that you're having a hard time understanding the nature of the relationship and ask for clarification. He would (undoubtedly, if he was good) explore this with you and (again, if he was good) help to set up some clear boundaries around the relationship to help you find comfort.
Again, if this problem is no longer bothering you, it's fine to leave it alone. But, if it still makes you uncomfortable, I would attempt this conversation before you drop his services.
That's me, though.

sorry not enough courage, confidence to do it


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12 Jun 2013, 12:47 pm

Stalk wrote:
I was told that orphanage babies need to bond with foster parents at early stage even if they are going to end up with other foster parents. Because it is good for the long run. I wonder if this is similar. So if this therapist have this power (best tool as the wikipedia state) and is married then he is trained (hopefully) not to do countertransference (which is what other people have said in this thread).

So this is normal then?


In Freudian analysis transference is the taking off point. They talk about this emotion that she is feeling. as time goes by her feelings for the therapist will go through many incarnations.

Below she says, "he holds my hand and checks for tremors whenever we meet. i find it odd, and it kind of creates a transference." I too find that odd.


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12 Jun 2013, 12:50 pm

I had a dream that I kissed my Psychiatrist and I told her that I had always loved her but she was angry with me and she wondered why I thought she was a sex criminal.



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12 Jun 2013, 1:38 pm

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2. I dated a female psychologist for a while, and eventually got tired of her constantly assuming that my words and actions all had an ulterior motive behind them. We eventually broke up after she accused me of wanting to hit on a woman that I had never met and didn't even know existed.


She sounds like she had some serious unrecognised paranoia issues to deal with.



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12 Jun 2013, 1:39 pm

namaste wrote:
i am a attention seeker and i like it when someone is nice and sweet to me
so i like his company because he shows concern for me
but nothing more then that i wont quit my marriage for him


Don't do this.

A crisp ₹1000 note says that he's after getting in your pants. That's all he's after, and that's why he's giving you attention. When he is finished with you, he will discard you.

You need to be with a psychiatrist who genuinely cares for your welfare, and not just someone who wants to bang you.



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12 Jun 2013, 3:22 pm

A psychiatrist wants to get into your mind.



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13 Jun 2013, 6:43 am

Tequila wrote:
Don't do this.

A crisp ₹1000 note says that he's after getting in your pants. That's all he's after, and that's why he's giving you attention. When he is finished with you, he will discard you.

You need to be with a psychiatrist who genuinely cares for your welfare, and not just someone who wants to bang you.

sounds so scary
people try to fool innocent and gullible people like me
i am the one who needs maximum love and concern
because i was denied of the same from parents and siblings

but instead i am the one who gets minimum love
plus maxium fooled


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13 Jun 2013, 7:02 am

I'm betting you're most likely projecting feelings onto him.

Nothing you've written points to anything from his side. Holding your hand to see if you have a tremor from anxiety or whatever is normal; it's hard to see a slight tremor.

If you have AS, you wouldn't know what he's feeling anyway without him saying it out aloud.