What to say at the supermarket...

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or you could say well its a party it's me i and myself and than be serious about it,and say i just like to buy the alcohol once and for all and drink a little bit week for week,with the reason that you by doing so you just come once at the supermarket and save time

does anybody think it's a good advice

Yeah, it's not normally a problem. I don't normally need a passport to buy beer or cider. I never need it in a pub, for example. Which is really rather odd, as you'd think that it would be evenly spread out.



It wasn't like the woman (it was only one person) was openly laughing at me, but I did see a smirk.

I have told my mum about it again and I've told her not to do that. She wouldn't like it if the roles were reversed, so I don't see how it's any different when it comes down to me.



Sometimes I have had women think that I am flirting with them when actually I am just bloody terrified of the situation I am in and am unable (for reasons beyond my control) to make any contact.

I tend to find that when I stare too much, I give women the absolute creeps. Which is understandable, but again - I'm paralysed.



I don't have any friends if I'm honest. I have acquaintances and people I meet on a semi-regular basis who are women, but they are not friends.



My problem is that I am often flirted with, yet when I am I more or less blow it. I don't (in general) go looking for these opportunities. They happen and often I feel paralysed in not being able to respond to it effectively when it does - so, for example, I'll give honest but non-flirty answers. Much of the time my answers are simply 'closed off' ones - so, they're technically true, mostly not rude at all and fine as far as they go - but they're not flirty. It's more a feeling of not being able to respond. I'm fine with the initial flirtatious eye contact, then when it comes to actually talking to them in a flirty way, I'm paralysed. I may actually be interested, but I only know about this once they've made it obvious and by then they've moved on.

As I said, more or less the only woman who finds me attractive that I see on a regular basis basically gropes the hell out of me (I'm quite serious - I'm surprised she hasn't put her hands down my trousers yet!). And she's married.



I'm not doing it deliberately.



Like I say - I can answer fine, I just don't realise that it's flirting or I'm paralysed when it comes to actually acting on my flirtatious desire. I'm better at it when it comes to a couple of drinks, but that's no good.



I do that already - the supermarket I use is fairly small and everyone knows everyone else, more or less. Like I say, I'm not completely socially aloof there but my answers are more focused on simple pleasantries and getting out of there.

In the UK, it's much more haphazard. Sometimes it is asked for, some times it is not. I was banking it being one of those times when it wasn't asked for.

I don't usually get asked. Perhaps 1 time in 10 or something like that.

I don't think most NTs would take it that literally. They don't really want to know about your party. They are just talking to make conversation. So just say anything.

I'm thinking of "what if?". The first answer should satisfy them, but if they carry on...

"No, it's for a funeral."

I got asked for id when I was buying beer (legal age 16) and I'm 30. And yet when I was 10 me and a friend bought a crate of beer for his dad, and nobody asked for id back then.
Aren't people required to carry their id in the UK? They introduced that in the Netherlands a couple of years ago, for no reason.

No, they're not. The legal drinking age is 18 in the UK, but the penalties for serving alcohol to people who are under 18 are so high that supermarkets/off licences are extremely careful to instruct their staff to demand proof-of-age where there is any doubt (or they don't know the customer). So they often ask people who are much older than 18 - asking people who are nearly 30 is not uncommon.

It pisses me right off, but I understand why retail staff do ask for it and they aren't generally doing it because they want to, so I have some sympathy with them.

If anyone asks me if Iam having a party I say, "Yes and Iam the only one I invited" in a positive way, that way you've given an answer that doesn't make you sound like a loser, that you are comfortable in your own company, if you just say you are having a party, what you going to say if the cashier says, "Oh can I come"?, go home, tidy up and see what she does when she realises its just the two of you?
Whereas being honest about your party of one gives her the opportunity to say "oh thats sad, maybe you should invite me"?


Or for something really whimsical if you find it annoying because a cashier is not minding their own business regarding your alcohol consumption, you could claim to be a Minister helping the down and outs.

It makes all the difference who asked you and whether you wish to reply and why and how you wish to reply.

I did pick up some info in later posts that you want to know what the flirty reply would be.

If you want to reply at all (and you don't have to - it's none of their business) you could just smile and say "Maayyybeeee."

Of course whether you want to pick up a random stranger and bring them home, someone who'd go home with a guy for a few beers...that is another question.

Hmm I'm not very good at replies either.

Maybe something like "Well they say two's the loneliest number since the number 1 but three's company if you know what I mean" then pat your crotch and wink at her and then if you don't get slapped and she laughs you can ask for her number?

Best. Description. Ever.

And to the OP, you can always say something like, "no, I just have a grudge against my liver."

Then I will tell her that the venue will be my bedroom due to a lack of space anywhere else.

That should either elicit uneasy laughter and a swift rejection or a counter-proposal of her own.

I would only say that if I was serious, mind you.

It's not that - I just never, ever, ever go to parties. And anyone who knows me knows that it's a stupid thing to ask me.

It's a stupid comment that isn't being made seriously, so I have trouble with it.



Well, yes, I suppose so. I just go and get a wine box, stick six (or 12) of the best in there and just go to the till.

If he wasn't married, I know a bus driver that probably would have been interested in you.



Yes, it's not fun.

I think the other thing is that I'm often too tired to know when I'm being flirted with. i have a sleep disorder that badly needs rectifying.

I would spice that up by saying that there is "a brutal war of attrition going on between myself and my liver".

I like that.



Ewww. Don't let her do that. First off - take your passport from her and hide it. Also get a provisional driving license if she won't let you have your passport.

In fact, why do you go there with your mum in the first place?

I get the evils from women (or a "sigh" look) every time I buy junk food. I almost never have a problem with men. My answer to it is to use the auto-checkouts, and to never visit the same supermarket regularly. As for striking conversations, I'm in the same boat. There's sometimes some gorgeous man behind the till who tries to strike up a conversation with me and I fail every time. The last one kept saying thank you to me and was all nervous and shy. Ahh...it's frustrating, isn't it? Those missed opportunities and you want to kick yourself for being so dumb (as in the actual meaning).

I remember once buying a packet of ice-lollies (for myself) and a man behind the till said to me he once ate a whole box of them. I told him I did that regularly and he went silent.