How many aspies here want children/family?

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I thought it meant that it sounded nice.
Because of "ring", like tapping a glass.
Thanks for clearing it up for me.

The irony being that, that's probably how the phrase got started in the first place. Because something has a pleasing sound to it.

I wish there was a topic which explained what all of the emoticons meant.
Does anyone know of one?

I would love to get married. A lot of people these days seems to be against the idea of getting married, but now that I have a job, getting married is my next goal.

I would like to have one or two children, but there are a lot of anxieties and fears that are getting in the way and are difficult to overcome. It seems more parents on WP have children on the spectrum than those that don't, so it is obvious that the chances of a parent on the spectrum having a child on the spectrum is higher than normal. I really do not want a child on the spectrum. I don't want a child with anything, I just want a physically and mentally healthy child.

Also I have SEVERE Emetophobia. I know this sounds silly and shouldn't let it interfere with my life, but it does and that's that. It feels like a condition to me. I know that all children get tummy bugs, and I can't just throw a fit and abandon my sick child whenever he or she is ill. So it is best for me not to bring children into the world, not with my anxieties and insanities and my increased chances of passing my ASD on to the child and make their lives a battle.

If you put your cursor over the emoticons that show up on the side of the screen when you post it says what they mean...except then you have to find one you saw someone use and want to understand and put your cursor over that one to see what it means. Otherwise I think they are meant to be kind of self explanatory....like the smiley face or frown face are pretty obvious I'd think, but some I can see being more tricky.

That is what it means. I said it "sounds nice to have someone to rely on"
I think you understood the meaning of the sentence better than I did, I never would have put it together with an actual sound... I kept thinking ring as in a jewelry ring, because they are nice to look at. The way you understood it makes much more sense. So, you actually cleared it up for me lol

Because then enters context and feelings and it just becomes really messy.
This is why I ask lots of questions.
I don't like being around people who aren't my mum or dad because I ask questions a lot and I can't trust anybody else not to joke or lie to me about the answers, I also don't ask because I don't know them.
Though the majority of the answers I get from them are "that's a very good question".

cool.
But if it was a jewelry ring, surely the sentence would have been "looks nice to have someone to rely on"?
At least for you, I am not such a big fan of jewelry rings.

Kids? Eeehhh.. They are loud, can be very annoying, tiring and needy. They also need lot's and lot's of caring and you will lose a lot of your freedom.

But on the other hand they can be super cute and funny.

hmm..

Nah, no kids. The negatives are far greater than the positives for me.

Just goes to show you how my brain mixes messages and meanings I guess haha. I just feel silly now.

Perhaps I should make an account here for my son, then let him tell you how worth it it is for him to be born and alive right now.

From my own experiences, I think there is an hormonal change, when you become parents. Since I am pregnant, even whining kids become "sooooooo supercute" to my partner and me. When we had a couple with a kid in an restaurant on the desk beside us, whose toddler started a bit of whining from now and then, the couple excused to us, because of us always watching into their direction. We then explained, that we are actually the opposite of annoyed, but feel forced to watch at their little cutie. ^^

I think you're right about this hormonal change, my sis is the perfect example of that. Whenever there were toddlers whining in a restaurant my sis would get so annoyed to the point that she wasn't able to enjoy her meal anymore. That changed when she got pregnant (and after it), she just smiles and watches them.

Not only do I not want to contribute to the spread of not so good genes (mine aren't just autism), but I don't feel where I live is the best place to raise kids of my cultural group due to long-standing interethnic conflict and just... separation in neighborhoods and schools. (The country that I originate from isn't the best place for special needs people.) If I could adopt NT kids of a different ethnicity I would actually consider it.

Actually the specific part of the country where I live is an awful place for any child to grow up, particularly a kid with special needs. If I lived somewhere else, it would be a totally different story.

I HAVE a husband and a kid. I always wanted to have a family.

I've always wanted children/family, only now, I'm fine with having 3 children. I have any more than 3, those little ones better be coming in multiples (as in twins or triplets).