Does anybody here have diffiulty with self help skills?

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While I am able to cook, go shopping etc., most of the time, I still have problems with self help skills.

If I haven't made a plan beforehand, I prioritising things is really difficult for me, so even if I feel that I'm hungry (i.e., my stomach is hurting), I might not prepare food because I cannot determine if that's really the thing to do at that moment (if you get my meaning).
Also, going shopping is really difficult because supermarkets usually cause overloads and afterwards, I might not be able to do something for the rest of the day.
My only way to function in that respect is either have a plan that I made the day before or in the morning right after getting up and following that plan or, if I'm lucky and have a really good day, I might manage to do these things without a previously made plan. Otherwise, I don't eat enough (that is, 1-2 meals, one of them consisting of chocolate).

No, those things aren't problematic for me. They're dead boring and lowly prioritized but they're not hard for me to do.

The only thing that can cause problems is trying to get to an unfamiliar place. The public transport is pretty well developed where I live, but I'm not very skilled at finding my way and I fear getting lost.
Oh, and I'm no good at sewing, so when clothes need repair, I'm pretty useless.

I can't cook. Partially because I'm uninterested, was never taught, and my mother's obsessive nature made trying to cook a huge hassle. But visual-spatial skills and difficulty with vague directions are also a big problem. For example, I have trouble figuring out which pot or pan to use just by looking at them. I often have to estimate the maximum volume of what I'm making, then measure that much water and pour it into the different pots to find the optimal one. I'm also too clumsy to trust myself with a knife.

I can't drive. I can get around alright by walking or riding the bus, if I have a smartphone. I have a very poor sense of direction, so I'll get lost quickly without GPS.

I can clean fine...I just never do.

Shopping can be difficult without a car. I always procrastinate it until I have no food left. I've been "going to" get groceries every day for two weeks now. Can't go today, have to wait for the UPS man. I have a low tolerance for frustration, so if I can't find something quickly then I usually say "screw it" and go without it.

Bills aren't a problem, I have them all paid automatically. Frequently checking the mailbox would be a problem if I didn't.

I have less than ideal hygiene.

I can wash clothes, I guess. I just wait until an excessive load builds up, then throw everything in together. Last time I forgot to bring the detergent and, in a display of exceptional laziness, washed them with just water. This has happened more than once.

In general I have trouble getting myself to do more than one "chore" a day, so it takes me a long time to get anything done.


But I can live independently, so I guess they're not that bad.

the hardest part about cooking food is the preparation, but once it is in the oven or on the burner I can sorta chill and do other things so long as I a within eyesight of the cooking and can smell if anything is burning or hear any overflowing boiling stuff going on.