Well, I don't know, I am not your friend but perhaps she doesn't connect in the same way you do. I definitely find myself burdened when people over-share, specially if it is about negative things. It's like - woa, why are you dumping all this in my lap..from my personal point of view, I'd feel like I am obliged to deal with your problem somehow. Not sure if your friend has the same attitude, but that is how I process this.
I find all feelings difficult to process, positive and negative, so trying to minimise that discomfort is always welcome.
Final thing - you did not go through the same thing as your friend. You went through your own thing. She is going through something different. If she is like me, she would feel resentful at the implication that you know what she is going through.
I know. So sorry, we are a major pain to be friends with!
That's just the thing. I don't think you are a major pain to be friends with. Thanks for the insight. It's a rather long story but initially when it all happened she was very grateful that I reached out. Keep in mind this is a newer friend. I didnt really share much of my experience only bc ut happened over 7 years ago but what seemed to upset her the most was when I offered to "be there" and invited her out. She made me feel like I did something wrong. As far as the feelings are concerned its mostly when I say something nice about her. She seems to get overwhelmed.
I am trying to initate a friendship basically and that is what seems to be the biggest problem. Maybe she is just scared or truly doesn't want to be friends. Both responses are painful for me to hear bc I do really like her. Just trying to understand.