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Sea Gull
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09 Nov 2013, 4:41 am

jamgrrl wrote:
Schizpergers wrote:
We may have met at the potluck. Were you at the one on the roof? Do you remember the guy with the cyborg hat and cat ears? That was me. I've been trying to go to another one but I haven't seen any posted lately. If you weren't there maybe I talked to you somewhere online.


Yes, I was at that one. I'm sorry I don't remember you by that description. I'm sure we'll bump into one another again. There aren't any more potluck a for awhile because Case, who ran them for many years needed to take a break. They're trying to find another space to have them. I really liked the potluck format, which let people talk to whoever they wanted. It was cool. :)


Cool. I'll probably see you again then. Thanks for not thinking I was spying on you. My photographic memory sometimes makes me hesitant to tell people where I've seem before, because people think I'm following them when I may have just seen them in the store last year. I was wearing an aviator hat with wires and bolts coming out and attached cat ears.



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09 Nov 2013, 4:26 pm

wozeree wrote:
You know what's really weird, you know how sometimes a person will figure out that you're different so they jump on you even of you are saying something that's not weird at all, just because they can. Sometime I even feel shame then! Sometimes I just get mad, but other times I want to crawl under something. It feels at times as if, even if my personality is not entirely flawed, the effective sum of it is, so therefore it all really is. But that's when I'm feeling down, I try hard not to let myself get that down.


Absolutely. This happens to me, too.

For myself, I used to "discount" things that people with speech impediments or obvious disabilities used to say, but then I tried converting it into text in my head and reading it back. 99% of the time, what someone said was perfectly sensible. It's a grief to me that I didn't do this earlier in my life. Glad I wasn't overtly mean, but I could have been less avoidant. Guess I learned by realising I too was "disabled."


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12 Nov 2013, 12:47 pm

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For myself, I used to "discount" things that people with speech impediments or obvious disabilities used to say, but then I tried converting it into text in my head and reading it back. 99% of the time, what someone said was perfectly sensible. It's a grief to me that I didn't do this earlier in my life. Glad I wasn't overtly mean, but I could have been less avoidant. Guess I learned by realising I too was "disabled."[/quote]

I was just on twitter saying there needs to be a moratorium on non-sincere questions. I've always had difficulty asking questions. I just don't think of them often, and when I do, I assume they are inappropriate. I've been pushing myself to ask more lately, but now am noticing I highly risk being misunderstood. Often my questions are taken as rhetorical or somehow not sincere. And it isn't just my tone of voice.. It happens over chat, too.

Language is a very confusing mess.


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