Moondust wrote:
Achievements include who they see you hang with, who you form alliances with, which bosses listen to you, etc. All that empowers NTs. We're hardly able in those areas, so we have to find other ways to empower ourselves. In the meantime, we have to be nice and just dissociate from their treatment or we go crazy.
I see. I'm the kind of person who treats those well, who treats me well. I'm not making alliances naturally. I'm not a people-pleaser, even when I'm facing bosses, and that has already given me substantial trouble. I don't respect the social hierarchy enough according to them, I think.
The result is, I've talked mostly with those lowest in the social hierarchy (because they are the one's forced to be most submissive), and that makes everyone think that's where I belong. But that's not how I see it myself. My worth is not dictated by NTs. I'm at least worth the same as all bosses at work! Everyone else surely don't agree on that, so I have to hide my true attitude and put up with their sh*t.
About dissociating from their treatment, what do you refer to here? I think I do that (i.e. for instance say, it's not the "real me" at work, I'm only there because I have to). Have you dissociated yourself from bad NT-treatment, and how so?
27 Nov 2013, 3:37 pm
