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28 Jan 2014, 4:19 pm

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Emotions seem to be odd things and now I wonder, with the way people talk about being happy or sad as though it's a very generalised thing, if others experience the same as I do.

I can be happy about one thing, but feel sadness over a different thing simultaneously.

So I may think about my loneliness and feel sad, yet at the same time I can think about playing piano and feel joy/happiness.

Do others just have one mood that is a constant state of mind? Because my emotions are more complex than that.


I have jumbles of emotions floating around in my mind. I also seem to have the bittersweet idea packed and ready to go. The same emotion can be joyful and painful to me.
Sometimes I'm emotionless and I don't like that. But liking's supposed to be tied to an emotion too so maybe I'm just bitter then?


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28 Jan 2014, 5:17 pm

I don't even know whether I am happy or sad, neither or both.


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28 Jan 2014, 7:25 pm

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This thread is going to get locked (I predict). When it comes true you can all send me big bucks to further predict your futures.


I was so wrong! Hey, I'm still available for psychic readings though. How about 2 out of 3? :)



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28 Jan 2014, 10:09 pm

bumble wrote:
Emotions seem to be odd things and now I wonder, with the way people talk about being happy or sad as though it's a very generalised thing, if others experience the same as I do.

I can be happy about one thing, but feel sadness over a different thing simultaneously.

So I may think about my loneliness and feel sad, yet at the same time I can think about playing piano and feel joy/happiness.

Do others just have one mood that is a constant state of mind? Because my emotions are more complex than that.

Perhaps being female you have more complex emotional ability.

I think I get this to an extent, but it causes pshychological disidence in me. Too much confusion = headache. This does happen, but when I get the headache, it tells me I'm confused and have to concentrate on each part instead of trying to read the whole.

My emotions tend to switch according to what I'm focusing on. If I'm playing music, then 100% of my attention will be on the music. If I'm thinking about last night's dinner date and what went wrong, I'll step through each of the events and probably feel the emotion related to each event as it occured.



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29 Jan 2014, 4:47 am

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People: If you are too lazy to flip on your happy switch, or you don't know where it's located, you only have yourself to blame. :x
It's definitely not a matter of being lazy. Perhaps some don't know where it is, that could be true but it's a bit harsh to say something like this. Maybe you have never experienced an episode of real depression. If you had I doubt you would say this.


My interpretation of Brian Kelley's statement was that he did not mean it literally, but was being sarcastic towered the OP's message.


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29 Jan 2014, 7:05 am

I'm too much of a realist to be perpetually happy but I have ups and downs. I might have a lot of affliction, a little depression but I am not sad. Life has all these obstacles and overcoming them is exactly what I intend to do, my personal spiritual journey. I'm gonna kick life's ass until it can't stand no more, just wait until I break free from this abyss. Hm. :)



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29 Jan 2014, 4:15 pm

The more I nap, the more I don't have to be conscious to feel. :D



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29 Jan 2014, 5:30 pm

ASPartOfMe wrote:
skibum wrote:
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People: If you are too lazy to flip on your happy switch, or you don't know where it's located, you only have yourself to blame. :x
It's definitely not a matter of being lazy. Perhaps some don't know where it is, that could be true but it's a bit harsh to say something like this. Maybe you have never experienced an episode of real depression. If you had I doubt you would say this.


My interpretation of Brian Kelley's statement was that he did not mean it literally, but was being sarcastic towered the OP's message.


I thought it was meant as a joke and laughed at the statement.


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29 Jan 2014, 6:44 pm

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ASPartOfMe wrote:
skibum wrote:
briankelley wrote:
People: If you are too lazy to flip on your happy switch, or you don't know where it's located, you only have yourself to blame. :x
It's definitely not a matter of being lazy. Perhaps some don't know where it is, that could be true but it's a bit harsh to say something like this. Maybe you have never experienced an episode of real depression. If you had I doubt you would say this.


My interpretation of Brian Kelley's statement was that he did not mean it literally, but was being sarcastic towered the OP's message.


I thought it was meant as a joke and laughed at the statement.
Thank you for clarifying. Another joke that went right over my head. Sorry, :D Dag nab it Asperger's! :D


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29 Jan 2014, 6:53 pm

When things look bad and you don't see anything to suggest they'll change any time soon, here's a little word...

HOPE.

Don't let go of the thought things CAN change for the better. Do NOT let go of that, and keep thinking of it. At least you can fight back against negative experiences.

You can let a hurricane wind knock you over, or you can struggle to keep standing, even if you have to grab hold of something to do it.

Keep fighting. Remain hopeful.

Otherwise, you might miss opportunities that can make a big difference.


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29 Jan 2014, 7:22 pm

Hope does help.

The funny thing about having multiple episodes of depression is that even when it's pretty bad, you've been there before and you remember that you got better before. And even when you start thinking, "But this time it's going to stay, this time it's really bad, this time I can't get out of this situation," you remember that that's how you were thinking last time you had depression, and you were wrong then. While your feelings may want you absolutely hopeless, you can usually depend on logic to throw a little doubt on the idea that you're truly at a dead end.


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29 Jan 2014, 7:42 pm

[quote="Sethno"]

You can let a hurricane wind knock you over, or you can struggle to keep standing, even if you have to grab hold of something to do it./[quote]

Lets be honest here if you're in a hurricane wind you'd be lucky not to be sucked into the damn thing no matter how hard you cling to something. Point being its not standing up I'd be focused on in that situation sometimes one has to pick their battles.


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29 Jan 2014, 9:08 pm

Come to think of it depression really isn't sadness. It isn't just feeling despondent and sorry for yourself either. It's more complicated than that. For me it's more like a feeling of utter exhaustion. That's the basic feeling. Everything takes more effort than normal. It's hard to see the point in anything. Sometimes you feel bored and restless but can't find anything enticing, sometimes you feel like everyone is poking and prodding at you and you want to scream and break things, other times you just want to sleep and never wake up. Still other times it's a feeling of utter emptiness and doom, like people are just going to leave you alone to rot for eternity. It's hard to concentrate on anything. It's hard to enjoy anything. Most of all you feel isolated and cut off. You see happy people and you start to resent them. You start to think everyone is judging you and you attack them before they can attack you. You want to be comforted by someone but simultaneously push people away. It can be very complicated. There isn't necessarily a reason, but when life sucks on top of already being chemically depressed, it tends to get much much worse.



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29 Jan 2014, 9:59 pm

skibum wrote:
Sweetleaf wrote:
ASPartOfMe wrote:
skibum wrote:
briankelley wrote:
People: If you are too lazy to flip on your happy switch, or you don't know where it's located, you only have yourself to blame. :x
It's definitely not a matter of being lazy. Perhaps some don't know where it is, that could be true but it's a bit harsh to say something like this. Maybe you have never experienced an episode of real depression. If you had I doubt you would say this.


My interpretation of Brian Kelley's statement was that he did not mean it literally, but was being sarcastic towered the OP's message.


I thought it was meant as a joke and laughed at the statement.
Thank you for clarifying. Another joke that went right over my head. Sorry, :D Dag nab it Asperger's! :D


I thought he was serious too. Now that you say that and I look at it, it seems obvious that you are right. Dag nab it is right! - haha didn't Hoss Cartwright used to say that?



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29 Jan 2014, 10:03 pm

wozeree wrote:
skibum wrote:
Sweetleaf wrote:
ASPartOfMe wrote:
skibum wrote:
briankelley wrote:
People: If you are too lazy to flip on your happy switch, or you don't know where it's located, you only have yourself to blame. :x
It's definitely not a matter of being lazy. Perhaps some don't know where it is, that could be true but it's a bit harsh to say something like this. Maybe you have never experienced an episode of real depression. If you had I doubt you would say this.


My interpretation of Brian Kelley's statement was that he did not mean it literally, but was being sarcastic towered the OP's message.


I thought it was meant as a joke and laughed at the statement.
Thank you for clarifying. Another joke that went right over my head. Sorry, :D Dag nab it Asperger's! :D


I thought he was serious too. Now that you say that and I look at it, it seems obvious that you are right. Dag nab it is right! - haha didn't Hoss Cartwright used to say that?


By the time I replied there were already people it was sarcasm. When I first saw that I didn't really think it was sarcasm I just thought it was one of those half joking have serious things. Well not really joking but saying something and optimistic manner with being serious but trying to be lighthearted. Like my response was.


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30 Jan 2014, 2:22 am

I thought he was serious.


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