How many friends do you have? (I will define friends)

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None, or possibly one.

I don't socialise with anyone these days other than my parents, not on internet, texting, anything. I've recently come to the realisation that I simply don't have the capacity for it (anymore at least as I did have some friends as a kid) when I don't have more than a bare minimum of social needs and desires, and have social skills just above the minimum required for me to function independently. Just being around other people at work a couple days a week, although I'm mostly quiet, seems to be more than enough for me.

Edit: I should mention that I am actually very happy and satisfied with my life at the time, so I don't have much sad feelings about it.

Last edited by alwaysnow on 26 Mar 2014, 1:10 pm, edited 2 times in total.

Yeah I must add that I didn't delete Facebook to 'see who would notice', I just sometimes delete Facebook temporarily as it can get overwhelming and I just don't want to do with people.

bump- I just want to see more answers.

Using your definition: I would guess zero. However I once was so sick I forgot to call in sick and had a number of co-workers try to track me down and even considered contacting the authorities. I am genuinely puzzled how I can be well respected yet have zero friends.

OMG! I would so love to be your friend! For reals!

Based off your definition, zero to one friends.

This is kind of distressing.

According to your definition - 1 - my girlfriend, (however, I also have my husband who I define as my friend).

Good old magic 0!

Ohhhh deeaarrrr. In THAT case... None. And I don't know if I've ever had a true friend. People I've known before and thought were friends always, always, ALWAYS end up not bothering to be in contact at all. When I think about it too much I get very depressed.

That's a slightly difficult definition from my point of view, because anyone who is even remotely my friend knows I would absolutely hate it if they came to my door unanounced.

Leaving your definition aside for a moment, I would say I have three friends, but I don't see any of them more than maybe once a year (only one of them even lives in the same town as I do), I don't like phone calls so we don't do that either, and e-mail/Facebook maybe every few weeks or months. So it would take a very long time for it to occur to any of them that something was wrong if they didn't hear from me, because they don't normally hear from me either.

I'd define those three as friends because I'm sure I can trust them, I could probably call on them if I needed help (although I would absolutely hate to have to), and I would hope they could call on me if they needed something. But honestly, I can't say I feel particularly "close" to any of them. I just know they're good people who for some reason seem to like me enough to maintain these very distant friendships, and I try to appreciate them for it.

I know and have known plenty of these strange people who seem to want to be friends but then don't respond when I make what is for me a massive effort to keep in touch. I don't think I'll ever not be baffled by this, but I've learnt to just shrug it off. (I'm in my 40s, so it's taken me long enough.)

According to your definition, I have 6 friends.

Zero and thus infinitely many.

Zero. I don't even have any Facebook friends.

I have a Facebook account but don't use it.
I befriended my daughter and grandkids on Facebook, now they are my Facebook friends.
I might post something once or twice a year if I can't get in touch with them otherwise.
I think they qualify as friends, so 3 friends.

I don't use FaceBook, but have 4 Real-Life friends who fit your criteria.

When I think about this it makes me think that I have had ALOT of "temporary" friends from my past. After a while, I had to get away from them for one reason or another. The friendship usually had to do with some sort of agenda. I probably really only have a couple true friends, and I don't see them very much, so if I wind up dead, it might take them a half of a year to figure it out. One I associate with quite alot, and have known a long time. I really don't like him all that much honestly. It is probably more of a supply thing. I'm going to guess here, and say that most people have alot of friends because of that narcissistic supply thing. Maybe it is just a neurotypical supply thing, I don't know. Sometimes these people even argue alot, really don't get along, and are still friends. Maybe we have issues with a low need for supply, and obviously poor social behavior, I don't know. I really don't need, or want alot of friends. Just dealing with a stranger or two each day fills me up pritty good.